Five Principles to Establish a Good Interpersonal Relation


Good interpersonal relationship can provide people with security and belongingness, bring spiritual pleasure and satisfaction, facilitate physical and mental health, therefore people all eager to establish a good interpersonal relationship. However, many people can not achieve this aim, and they even have a serious sense of failure. Then how to give others reasons to love us and establish a good interpersonal relations? It is extremely important to observe following five communication principles:
I. Mutual Benefit Principle

In fact, interpersonal relationship is a kind of mental relationship among people, and it reflects a mentality that individual or group seeks for things to meet its social needs. Therefore, change and development of interpersonal relationship is subject to satisfaction degree of both parties’ social needs. If during the communication, both parties obtain their respective satisfaction of social needs, then close mental relationship can occur and be maintained between them, which display a friendly affection; at the opposite side, relationship between them may be alienated. Interpersonal relationship of various levels reflects the attraction degree of mutual needs among people.
II. Credit Principle

“Treat people with sincerity and insist on credit” is the guarantee for extension and deepening of interpersonal communication. During the communication process, only with a motivation and attitude of sincere heart and kind intention can people mutually understand, receive, trust and arise resonance in sentiment, so that the communication relation can be consolidated and developed.
III. Respect Principle

Although due to the influence of subjective and objective factors, people may vary in temperament, character, ability, knowledge, etc, however, their personality is equal. Only through respecting oneself and others can an equal position of each party in interpersonal communication be maintained.?
IV. Tolerance Principle

Tolerance displays that a person does not care much too minor issues, he can treat others with tolerance, seek for common grounds while putting aside differences and take revenge with lenience. Tolerance helps to enlarge communication space, nourish interpersonal relationship and eliminate interpersonal tension and ?contradiction. During the interpersonal communication, contradiction that occurs due to individual differences or unpredictable mistakes or misunderstanding is inevitable. If someone pricks or hurts you, you keep dwelling on it and hope to revenge, then it will necessarily lead to a vicious circle. On the contrary, if you believe that people’s sentiment can be induced, majority of people can be conscientious, open-minded and tolerant, if “presenting a papaya” to others, then you will be “returned for it a beautiful Ju-gem” sooner or later.?
V. Moderation Principle

Time for communication shall be moderate. We shall be prevented from inputting too much time and energy due to overemphasis of the importance of communication.

Distance for communication shall be moderate. It is very necessary for friends to keep a certain distance among them, however, the size of distance can be differentiated to friends with different intimacy.

Frequency for communication shall be moderate. As for some people’s communication principle, they are inseparable with their friends when the interpersonal relationship is good; if their relationship becomes disharmonious, they may mutually attack and is not willing to communicate any more, and it is very disadvantageous for the mental health of both parties and development of interpersonal relationship. Degree of closeness shall be properly maintained in interpersonal communication.

Through adherence of the above five principles, it is believed that our interpersonal relationship in life can be dealt with just as the fish get water!