Training minds

[Redefiner]

People often say that they don't offer Fajr because they cannot wake up easily, similarly, they cannot give up their habit of smoking, abusive language, etc.

And Psychologists, motivational speakers say that its just about training your mind. One can do anything if he wills and mind will follow. So, same thing happened to me.

I am intensely sick and tired of our cricket team losing every single tournament, even losing matches against teams such as Bangladesh and Zimbabwe. And I always end up getting agonised at the deteriorating performance of our team. So i stopped keeping hope of our team winning matches. Consequently, time came when i become indifferent at the outcome of the matches even at the victory and at the next level i have become anti-Pakistani team now.

What i meant to say is that now i feel happy when Pakistani batsman gets bowled out, caught out, run out, or lose a match. I along with my friend was watching Ind vs. Pak match in public at road. Whenever Kohli or any other Indian batsman was hitting six or four, I was cheering out aloud, at which my friend stopped me saying that public will beat you out. Similarly, as I am drafting this thread while watching Aus vs. Pak match, 2 things happened:

1. Aaron Finch bowled out by Imad (and i felt sad)
2. Maxwell and Smith hit 4s ( and I felt happy)

Now what conclusion I am drawing from my situation is that the reversion of mind is not because of some inspiration, desire of achievement or motivation, instead it is because of letting down of hopes by Pak team.

I would like to know from all Psychologists, student of Psychology, and everybody present over here and reading this thread that what are your comments over my this psychological condition as it has happened automatically as I had not wanted it to be done. And would there be any adverse impacts on my personality because everyone keep hopes of their loved ones, friends, closed acquaintances etc. And since nobody is perfect in this world and people will definitely not keep up to the every hope and my present psychological condition may lead to the negative behaviour.

So now I look forward for your valuable comments.

P.S. Australian team has made themselves invincible by scoring 193 :P

Yours sincerely

[ursula]

I simply say its cognitive dissonance, or rationalization.
Or in very very very simple words" angoor ghatte hain".
I'm not psychologist but my study suggested the same idea, don't worry, its quite natural.After all "human need some reasons to justify the things that he doesn't achieve."
Uffff!
Thanks to almighty Allah, somebody is also thinking like that of mind.Otherwise, ghar wale mjhe "pagal" kahte Han k kitabun ne iss ka damagh khrab kr dya.i
Congrats in advance, Pakistan match har jae ga.

[qublai khan]

it is the shift from extreme trust to distrust.

cognitive dissonance would have occurred if he became indifferent to the cricket match; change in attitude.but here as bro said that he feels happy over pak defeat.so I guess the envy and distrust are the shift from one pole(trust) to another (distrust).

his behavior has changed; cheering over another team's player in public,means nonconformity to the majority group and popular norms.

I think its not any psychological disorder.it is extreme form of emotion,anger and hatred.

[ursula]

Originally Posted by qublai khan

it is the shift from extreme trust to distrust.

cognitive dissonance would have occurred if he became indifferent to the cricket match; change in attitude.but here as bro said that he feels happy over pak defeat.so I guess the envy and distrust are the shift from one pole(trust) to another (distrust).

his behavior has changed; cheering over another team's player in public,means nonconformity to the majority group and popular norms.

I think its not any psychological disorder.it is extreme form of emotion,anger and hatred.

No, its not psychological disorder, its justification to avert the realities.Every body is bit dissonant to such an extant and it is just normal.Another thing, no body is completely conformist nor deviant as Uniqueness among each individual.Simply you can say, variety within homogeneity.
I hope it will work.

[Redefiner]

Originally Posted by qublai khan

his behavior has changed; cheering over another team's player in public,means nonconformity to the majority group and popular norms.
.

Are you referring to iconoclasm?

Yours sincerely

[Redefiner]

Originally Posted by ursula

I simply say its cognitive dissonance, or rationalization.
Or in very very very simple words" angoor ghatte hain".
I'm not psychologist but my study suggested the same idea, don't worry, its quite natural.After all "human need some reasons to justify the things that he doesn't achieve."
Uffff!
Thanks to almighty Allah, somebody is also thinking like that of mind.Otherwise, ghar wale mjhe "pagal" kahte Han k kitabun ne iss ka damagh khrab kr dya.i
Congrats in advance, Pakistan match har jae ga.

I get your rationalization argument but how are you referring it with proverb, Angoor khatte hain?

Anyhow, i suffer the same. In fact, i have now stopped talking in my home except replying to their questions in simple yes or no or to the point answer.

But the problem is that one cannot stay entirely aloof from one's family since one is related with them since birth time and then sometimes one do shares a light moment and then the time comes when i start sounding nonsense to them.

But its ok, because at the end i know that i am right. Lekin kabhi kabhi bhand maar bhi deta hoon

Yours sincerely