The Dirty Old Men of Pakistan
The Dirty Old Men of Pakistan
Karachi, Pakistan ó IN the world we live in, there is no dearth of pious men who believe that most of the worldís problems can be fixed by giving their women a little thrashing. And this business of a manís God-given right to give a woman a little thrashing has brought together all of Pakistanís pious men.
A few weeks ago, Pakistanís largest province passed a new law called the Punjab Protection of Women Against Violence Act. The law institutes radical measures that say a husband canít beat his wife, and if he does he will face criminal charges and possibly even eviction from his home. It proposes setting up a hotline women can call to report abuse. In some cases, offenders will be required to wear a bracelet with a GPS monitor and will not be allowed to buy guns.
A coalition of more than 30 religious and political parties has declared the law un-Islamic, an attempt to secularize Pakistan and a clear and present threat to our most sacred institution: the family. They have threatened countrywide street protests if the government doesnít back down.
Their logic goes like this: If you beat up a person on the street, itís a criminal assault. If you bash someone in your bedroom, youíre protected by the sanctity of your home. If you kill a stranger, itís murder. If you shoot your own sister, youíre defending your honor. Iím sure the nice folks campaigning against the bill donít want to beat up their wives or murder their sisters, but they are fighting for their fellow menís right to do just that.
Itís not only opposition parties that are against the bill: The government-appointed Council of Islamic Ideology has also declared it repugnant to our religion and culture. The councilís main task is to ensure that all the laws in the country comply with Shariah. But basically itís a bunch of old men who go to sleep worrying that there are all these women out there trying to trick them into bed. Maybe thatís why there are no pious old women on the council, even though thereís no shortage of them in Pakistan.
The councilís past proclamations have defended a manís right to marry a minor, dispensed him from asking for permission from his first wife before taking a second or a third, and made it impossible for women to prove rape. Itís probably the most privileged dirty old menís club in the country.
Some of us routinely condemn these pious old men, but it seems they are not just a bunch of pampered religious nuts. In fact, they are giving voice to Pakistani menís collective misery over the fact that their women are out of control. Look at university exam results; women are hogging all the top positions. Go to a bank; there is a woman counting your money with her fancy nails. Turn on your TV; there is a female journalist questioning powerful men about politics and sports.
One of these journalists recently was grilling a famous mufti opposed to the bill. Bewildered, the mufti said: Are you a woman, or are you a TV journalist? She was professional enough not to retort: Are you a mufti, or just another old fart?
It wasnít supposed to be like this. Three decades ago, most Pakistani women who had paid jobs worked at menial tasks, and the others were confined to traditional professions like medicine or teaching or, occasionally, law. There was a small and brave womenís movement. Women were writing novels and making movies, but they were few in number. Now they are flying planes, heading companies, policing the streets, climbing mountains and winning Oscars and Nobel Prizes. There are millions of women across the country running little beauty parlors from their homes, employing other women and gaining a measure of independence.
But for every bank teller, there are still millions of women who are farmhands or house help. For every TV journalist, there are many more women who live in half-slavery, scrubbing and cleaning, and shouldering the heavy burden of protecting and raising their kids.
Letís not just blame the mullahs and muftis. Misogyny is way older than any religion. Even people who have never seen the inside of a mosque or the Sufis who want to become one with the universe wouldnít think twice before treating a woman as something between a pest and a pet goat.
Some members of Parliament stayed away when this bill was being passed in the Punjab assembly. They probably represent a majority. Some of us even call ourselves feminist. ďSee, I have never stopped my sister from going to school, never given my girlfriend a black eye. That makes me a feminist, right? But we must protect our families. You donít want a family-loving feminist man going around with a GPS tracker, do you?Ē
What really scares the so-called feminist men is that a lot of women are actually quite bored with talking about being a woman. They talk about their work. A film director talks about bad actors. A development worker talks about idiotic funding patterns. A maid talks about her cellphone and the quality of detergents.
Thereís a woman in my neighborhood who walks fast. She is always carrying two kids in her arms. Not infants but 3-, 4-year-old sturdy kids, heavy weights. She walks fast. Probably you have to walk fast when you are carrying two kids. She doesnít expect a lift from the many cars passing by. She canít afford a cab. She is walking toward her bus. Always with the two kids in her arms and a bag around her shoulder. She gives Quran lessons at peopleís homes.
I donít think all those pious men, or anyone else, can tell that woman with the two kids how to walk her daily walk. If someone asks her how it feels to be a woman in this society, sheíd probably answer, ďCanít you see Iím working?Ē
Mohammed Hanif is the author of the novels ďA Case of Exploding MangoesĒ and ďOur Lady of Alice Bhatti,Ē the librettist for the opera ďBhuttoĒ and a contributing opinion writer.
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