Long ago i have heard that Marriage(life partner), the time of death and the amount of rizq for every human being are fixed, they can never be changed in any circumstances.... if they ever could then many of us would have increased their life time and the world would have become congested with human beings, same is the case with rizq, as Allah has sent a limited amount of rizq in this world so if someone be able to eat more rizq than is decided for him/her then it would be scarce for the other, it is quite related with the death time as if death time would change then the utilization of the rizq for the person would be increased.... and the last thing is the marriage.... if everyone gets marry according to his will then it would disturb the whole system, because only Allah knows who is the best for us.... and it can be proved from the verse of Quran.... i think its in Surah e Nisaa..... Paak aurton k liye paak mard or paak mardon k liye paak aurtain hain.... so it shows clearly that marriage is fixed, if wasn't then this Ayat would not be practically aplicable Na-uzobillah... but we are Muslims and we believe in Quran so according to this ayat marriage seems to be fixed and can never be changed........
Now dear brothers and sisters, correct me if i am wrong in any case, and if someone of you know any Hadees or Ayat relating this, then please share it... it still confusing me because people say that DUA can change everything.... but if DUA could change these three things then still there would be problem in this limited world.... please reply here because i want to make my mind clear about this...
thanks

Let me tell you what I have learned in this regard.

There are two things -- taqdeer and qismat. Qismat is the one that can be changed with hard work, prayers and the choice of path we choose to walk on. Let's suppose there are two paths, path A and path B. The choice of these paths is given in our hand. Whichever path we opt for, we'll have to face its respective consequences. These consequences are not always known to us beforehand. When we talk about 'qismat badalna', that is actually the choice of path that we make. Since Allah is the All-Knower, He knows the choices we will make throughout our lives: He knows the ultimate consequences of our decisions and it is that knowledge of the consequences that He has, that is written in our taqdeer.
Now coming to the second point... The acceptance of dua doesn't actually create problem, instead dua put things straight . It is how we pray that creates problems. If we make a dua humbly, bow in front of Allah and ask us to grant us something if it is beneficial for us and take away our desire for that thing if it is harmful to us; we either get that thing in a form we wanted it in, get something better or have our dua saved for the hereafter and get patience. What we usually do is insisting on getting the thing we desire of, we start reminding Allah of our good deeds and ask for that thing in exchange for our good deeds. Sometimes when we feel like we are not going to get that thing we tell Him how and how He has been unfair to us and how and how He didn't listen to our requests (naozubillah) but we don't bother to think that this could be for some wisdom of Allah. At such points we are granted we have asked for but later on we get to see the end-results of that zid. That's why some wise fellow has said 'kabhi kabhi Allah Ta'ala humain aik gul-dasta daina chahta hai aur hum sirf aik phool k liye zid laga kar baith jatay hain. Dua zaror maangain lekin bahut zid na karain'.

Hope you got your answer. I didn't quote any Aya'h aur Ahadeeth because whatever I have written here is reproducing what I have read at different places. Keeping exact Aya'h and Ahadeeth in mind is a difficult and error prone task.

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Thank you brother for such a comprehensive post, but there isn't specific point about Death time, Marriage and Rizq(amount of rizq)...
as i have heard from someone that these are fixed can never be changed.....
well, your answer was still a better one.....

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Hmmmmm, so I searched this question of yours on an Islamic website and here is what it says...

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Are rizq (provision) and marriage written in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz? Praise be to Allaah. Everything from when Allaah created the Pen until the Day of Resurrection is written in al-Lawh al-Mahfooz, because when Allaah first created the Pen, He said to it: “Write.” It said: “My Lord, what should I write?” He said: “Write what is to be. So at that moment it began to write what would be until the Day of Resurrection. And it is proven from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that when the foetus in its mother’s womb is four months old, Allaah sends an angel to breathe the soul into it and write down its provision, its lifespan and its deeds, and whether it is doomed or blessed. Provision is also written down and connected to its means, and it does not increase or decrease. Among those means are that man should work to seek provision, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “He it is Who has made the earth subservient to you (i.e. easy for you to walk, to live and to do agriculture on it); so walk in the path thereof and eat of His provision. And to Him will be the Resurrection” [al-Mulk 67:15] Other means are: upholding ties of kinship, such as honouring one’s parents and upholding ties with relatives. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever would like his provision to be abundant and his lifespan to be extended, let him uphold his ties of kinship.” Fearing Allaah (taqwa), as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And whosoever fears Allaah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty). 3. And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things” [al-Talaaq 65:2-3] Do not say “Provision is foreordained and limited and I will not do any of the things that lead to it,” because this is helplessness; smartness and resolve mean striving to seek provision and that which will benefit you in religious and worldly terms. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The smart man is the one who takes stock of himself and strives to do that which will benefit him after death, and the helpless one is the one who follows his own whims and desires and engages in wishful thinking, (assuming that Allaah will forgive him regardless of what he does and that he does not need to strive to good deeds).” Just as provision is written and connected to its means, so too marriage is also written and preordained. For both spouses it is written that he or she will be the spouse of this particular person. Nothing is hidden from Allaah on earth or in heaven. End quote. And Allaah knows best. Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) Fataawa Noor ‘ala al-Darb (p. 36)

Is it clear now or do I need to make a little more effort???

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Brother this is quite helpful now, its clear and this effort of yours is the best God bless you in this as well as in the life hereafter.. Ameen

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