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India gang rape victim's father: My daughter's name is Jyoti
India gang rape victim's father: I want the world to know my daughter's name is Jyoti Singh Pandey She is known to the world only as India’s Daughter following her sickening gang rape and murder. But today, with permission of her devastated father, we can reveal her name: Jyoti Singh Pandey. Brave dad Badri, 53, told The Sunday People: “We want the world to know her real name. “My daughter didn’t do anything wrong, she died while protecting herself. “I am proud of her. Revealing her name will give courage to other women who have survived these attacks. They will find strength from my daughter.” We interviewed Badri and his family in his ancestral village of Billia in the northern Indian state of Uttar Pradesh. They have retreated there to grieve away from their Delhi home – a place that will constantly remind them of the barbaric sexual attack Jyoti, 23, was subjected to when she and a male friend were lured on to a bus. His wife Asha, 46, was too shell-shocked to talk to us. Badri said: “At first I wanted to see the men responsible face to face but I don’t want to any more. I just want to hear that the courts have punished them and they will be hanged. “Death for all six of them. These men are beasts. They should be made an example of and that society will not allow such things to happen.” Recalling the day he found out about his only daughter’s ordeal, Badri said he had just returned home after 10:30pm on December 16 from his shift at Delhi airport where he works as a loader. His wife was worried after Jyoti, a medical school graduate, had not returned home from the cinema. Badri said: “We started calling her mobile and her friend’s mobile but there was no answer. “Then at 11.15pm we got a call from the hospital in Delhi telling me my daughter had been in an accident.” Badri asked a friend to take him on a motorbike. He said: “When I first saw her she was in the bed with her eyes closed. “I put my hand on her forehead and called her name. She slowly opened her eyes and started crying and said she was in pain. “I held my tears. I told her not to worry, have strength and everything will be all right.” At the time Badri still didn’t know what had happened. A policeman finally explained. Jyoti and her friend Awindra Pandey, 28, had boarded a bus to get home but had been taken on a two-and-a-half hour ride to hell by the driver, his assistant and four passengers. Both were battered with iron bars and Jyoti was repeatedly raped before they were stripped and dumped on a road leading to Delhi airport – yards from where Badri was working. He said: “I immediately called my wife and sons and told them to come to the hospital. But I couldn’t tell them about the rape.” For the first ten days Jyoti was in and out of consciousness and it was hopeful she would survive. Badri said: “Doctors did their best to save her. She spoke a few times but mostly through gestures. She had a feeding pipe in her mouth making it difficult for her to speak. But she did write on some paper that she wanted to live, she wanted to survive and stay with us. But it was fate that had the last say in the end.” Jyoti gave the police two statements, but Badri was too distraught to sit in as he couldn’t listen to what his daughter had been subjected to. “My wife was with her through the statements but she cried so much after hearing it all,” Badri said. “She then told me what happened. I don’t have the words to describe the incident. All I can say is they’re not human, not even animals. They’re not of this world. “It was just gruesome and I hope no one ever goes through what she had to endure. “She cried a lot, she was in a lot of pain. And as soon as she saw her mother and brothers she cried again. “But after that she was a courageous girl, even trying to console us and give us hope that everything will be all right.” Doctors were forced to remove Jyoti’s intestines and as her conditioned worsened, they flew her to Singapore for specialist care on Boxing Day. Badri said: “I told her everything would be OK and we’ll soon be back home. She was excited when we talked about going home and she smiled. “I put my hand on her forehead, she asked me if I’d had any dinner and then she gestured for me to go to sleep. I held her hand and kissed it. I told her to take rest and not to worry and she closed her eyes.” As Jyoti battled for life, thousands took to the streets to demand the hanging of the six accused and a new anti-rape law. But three days later on December 29 she had a fatal heart attack. Badri said: “I so desperately wanted her to survive, even though she would have to live with a memory of that attack and get through her trauma. “We’re so devastated that she’s gone. There’s a huge void in our lives. She was the centre of our universe. Our lives revolved around her. “Her absence is so painful, a future without her is unimaginable.” Badri said Jyoti’s friend Awindra was not her boyfriend – just a very brave friend who tried to save her. He said: “There was no question of her marrying because we belong to different castes. “She never expressed a desire to marry. She was concentrating on her studies and wanted a job first.” Badri also revealed that Jyoti often mentioned how much Awindra tried to save her. She kept telling her mother he tried his best to help but they kept beating him with a rod.” Badri now cherishes the memories of his daughter. He remembers her dream of being a doctor. He said: “I told her I can’t afford to pay for her to do such subjects but she was determined. She wanted to be a doctor and earn lots of money and go overseas a lot.” When Badri first moved to Delhi in 1983 he earned just 150 Rupees a month – the equivalent of £1.70 today. But he sold some land to pay for his daughter’s studies and saved as much as possible from his 5,700 Rupees (£65) a month he now earns. Badri said: “It’s hard living in Delhi on my wages, very hard. But Jyoti always said she would change all of that. She wanted to change our lives once she got a job.” Jyoti had only just finished her four-year course in physiotherapy at college outside Delhi. She was doing an internship when she was attacked. Her brothers, Gaurav Singh, 20, and Saurav Singh, 15, were close to their big sister and cannot image how they will cope. Gaurav said: “Life is going to be so difficult without her. Without her guidance I don’t know what to do or how to go about life again.” Badri and all the family have been touched by the way the nation has supported them. He said: “The people of India have given us strength to cope up with our loss. I feel she’s not just my daughter but also India’s daughter. “I used to read about rape incidents in the newspapers but never digested it much. We’re so thankful to the people who came out to protest against the barbarity.” DNA tests have linked five men and a 17-year-old from the bus with rape and murder. The men will appear at the District Court in the Saket area of the Indian capital tomorrow. The 17-year-old will be tried separately as a juvenile. Badri now hopes mothers and fathers will teach their sons to respect women. He said: “The police cannot handle this on their own. But parents need to keep an eye on their children too.” Badri’s face lit up when he spoke of Jyoti’s dreams and invited us to look through his family album. Each photo showed his beautiful daughter smiling. In most she is wears western clothes, which she favoured over the traditional sari. She also always wore her long, dark shiny hair down and flowing – never tied up. In respect with Badri’s wishes he has asked us not to picture her. Releasing a photo of her is for another day. Indian law prohibits naming a rape victim unless she authorises it or, if she is dead, her family agrees to it. At the moment it is enough for the devastated family to sanction the release to the world of their precious daughter’s name. http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-n...father-1521289 I posted this article to highlight the issue of sexual violence against women. Jyoti's (indian rape victim) incident is an eye opener for all of us. What happened with her can happen with any girl because the laws, system and social stereotypes have tuned our minds to see women as a "sex symbol" and to humiliate them. Every person who called himself a "human being" has categorically condemned this act. but only condemning is not enough now. We should find the practical ways to stop such heinous crimes against women. I request all member to point out the reason for such acts and to suggest solutions to stop such acts which are slaps on the face of humanity. |
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1 Lack of quality education for all. 2 Inefficient law enforcement. 3 Low regard for women 4 Feudalistic school of thought. How to end this culture: 1 Effective legislature to make an end to rape culture. 2 Realization of women violence. 3 Mass awareness for the Respect and Eqaulity of women. 4 Becoming an ally to women who are working to end all forms of gender violence. 5 Mentoring and teaching about how to be men in ways that don't involve degrading or abusing girls and women.
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this is beyond my understanding that why the people are not brave enough to discuss about the extensive brutal attack on a poor soul? i remember that some days ago the father was about to sue a newspaper for revealing his poor daughter's,name but the fate has led him to the worldwide announcement of her daughter. the question now arises that why the judicial process is too slow to punish the animals. perhaps the bus company has approached the political influence to spoil the proceedings and perhaps to negate the entire facts about the involvement of their bus. whatever the reason may b, the incidents of this kind are the evident of the moral decay of a society, may be a day comes when the women would protect themselves with a careless fire at these rascals. and this will the ultimate outcome of the judicial injustice.
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Unless we implement Capital punishment for dishonoring women, there wont be any declination in growing crime against this gender. Come on, treat woman as a human being, not a just BODY.
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I run short of words to express my grief over the miserable death of that girl, those involved in this heinous act must be publicly lynched so that they become an example and one would think thousand times before doing any such thing again.
well at one side that particular incident manifests the depravity and moral turpitude of Indian nation and on the other side it also renders the Indians as a nation of bystanders, where were all other passengers boarding the same bus? if those rapists were physically involved in tarnishing the status of humanity then all other passengers were watching this happening and were enjoying the free entertainment, they are as much involved as those rapists are. We have another example when a girl was publicly humiliated and a mob did nothing but watch all proceedings, this is the harbinger of a great devastation that may follow. If we just hold the men responsible, that won't be just and fair. Nature has made the two sexes attractive to each other. When the girls will wear mini skirts and things like that, if not all, some will definitely get invitation. That's why Islam has so emphasized on the women to properly cover themselves, shariah doesn't allow women to talk to someone in sweet voice even what to say of showing your body to other men. These girls arouse the sexual instincts of men and what follows is such heinous acts.
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thank you for the post Call of change..
my heart bleeds for the poor father.
Causes: 1. Easy access to porn the frustrated men are thus infected with sick fantasies & perverted desires. 2. Ever increasing distance from religion every religion specifies good deeds & sins. every single one of them discusses rewards & retribution (karma). so its only the lack of knowledge or interest (or fear of God) of their so-called adherents that perpetuates such despicable acts 3. Culture of silence we have no,absolutely no idea of the difference in the number of actual rape incidents & the reported ones..why? because a culture of silence prevails. such evil monsters are 99.99% sure that girl or her family would prefer silence rather than reporting the crime to the authorities. Armed with this comforting knowledge they act with impunity. 4. Tortuous criminal procedure it is a well-known fact that the police & lawyers of subcontinent subject the victim to such humiliating questions that they feel violated all over again.No one wants to go through such an ordeal (willingly). hence, plenty of leeway for the criminals. impunity all over again Solution 1. chemical or surgical castration of rapists (whichever is cheaper). 2. women friendly police stations. train the existing lot or recruit more women, whatever works. 3. compulsory martial arts training (taekwondo,karate,kickboxing etc) for ALL female students. 4. search engines should boycott porn sites. maybe i am wrong, but if google, yahoo etc refuse to show the links of such websites, the access can be controlled..hopefully 5. steps (by parents if not the state itself) for deeper understanding of the religion. thats it..over to you guys.. |
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And you know what's the problem with our society "We teach a girl not to raped , but we don't teach our men not to rape" @all I totally agree with your points. Thanks for contribution. Please next time try to respect other women as you respect you daughter or mother.
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It was a gruesome act of mentally retarded idiots and cowards, unfortunately such people are also in abundance in our country.
There is a need to change the thinking pattern of people. Unless and until thinking pattern of people are changed, we can neither progress nor subdue social evils like rape.
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and it is even better if we teach the girls not to seduce men at first hand. That's why Islam does not only forbid men to stay away from such malicious acts, but it also advices women not to display themselves in such a way as to invite the men for any bad act.
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The Qur’an stresses the sanctity of one’s life. The life of every individual regardless of religion, nationality, gender or age is worthy of respect. It does not limit the definition of life to the physical body only, but includes the mental, emotional and spiritual aspects as well. "And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden, except by right. And whoever is killed unjustly - We have given his heir authority, but let him not exceed limits in [the matter of] taking life. Indeed, he has been supported [by the law]." Surah Isra'(17 :33) "Say, "Come, I will recite what your Lord has prohibited to you. [He commands] that you not associate anything with Him, and to parents, good treatment, and do not kill your children out of poverty; We will provide for you and them. And do not approach immoralities - what is apparent of them and what is concealed. And do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed] except by [legal] right. This has He instructed you that you may use reason." "(Sûrah al An'am 6:151) You can search many more. Quote:
"And leave what is apparent of sin and what is concealed thereof. Indeed, those who earn [blame for] sin will be recompensed for that which they used to commit." Sûrah al An'am (6:120) Wa'il ibn Hujr narrated: [When a woman went out in the time of the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) for prayer, a man attacked her and overpowered (raped) her. She shouted and he went off, and when a man came by, she said: That (man) did such and such to me. And when a company of the Emigrants came by, she said: That man did such and such to me. They went and seized the man whom they thought had had intercourse with her and brought him to her. She said: Yes, this is he. Then they brought him to the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him). When he (the Prophet) was about to pass sentence, the man who (actually) had assaulted her stood up and said: Apostle of Allah, I am the man who did it to her. He (the Prophet) said to her: Go away, for Allah has forgiven you. But he told the man some good words (AbuDawud said: meaning the man who was seized), and of the man who had had intercourse with her, he said: Stone him to death. He also said: He has repented to such an extent that if the people of Medina had repented similarly, it would have been accepted from them.(Dawud :: Book 38 : Hadith 4366 )] Quote:
If the women are involved in indecent exposure or some other immoral activities that is a separate issue and we should not muddle the issues. A Muslim cannot outrage her under any circumstances, whether she belongs to your own tribe or to the tribe of an enemy ,whether she belongs to your own society or to the society of your enemy, whether she belongs to your own nation or to the nation of an enemy, whether she follows your religion or belongs to some other religion or has no religion at all. May ALLAH PAK show us Right Path. Ameen! Stay Blessed
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