A very better but bitter Advice and Message of 2019 to ALL youngster
 

[SIZE="3"][FONT="Trebuchet MS"]A very better but bitter Message of 2019 to ALL social media victimized young generation who are in search of a true life partner in a fake world of social media. Today, I am going to open your eyes with the smacks of veracity.
Whether you admit it or NOT but every single of us is athirst of a true lover and always think that this year may reveal their dreams get true but before initiating this new year and fall into a relationship with someone, you must think carefully about what you are going to do?
A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle it lightly. Are you ready for a relationship with her/him? Are you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually well mature to meet her/his needs?
Being sexually or emotionally attracted to her/him means absolutely nothing. It isn't a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your frustration or your hormones messing with your mind. A woman is more than her body and her sexuality. She has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that?
This person has a history. Can you handle it? S(he) has a past. Can you handle it? Can you handle her/his mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle her/his dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? S(he) already had a life before S(he) met you. Can you fit into it and help to improve her/his life furthermore? Love is a commitment. Are you ready to commit your life to help her/him grow and become all that S(he) can be, by God's grace?
Is S(he) valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of HER/HIS dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her/his all the Lord plans for her/him to be? If you are not ready, don't just bother her/him. Before you open your mouth to say 'I love you', ask yourself if this is not just a moment of your ‘emotional madness'. A person needs much more than 'I love you'. S(he) needs your dedication. If you are not ready to make that loyalty which will lead to a successful marriage, then please leave her/him alone in peace and stop wasting her/his valuable time and useful resources.
Sorry!!! if something felt heavy to you but the truth is that sun can't be hidden while keeping hands on eyes. We must confront with these kinds of realities and accept these truths viz-a-viz. Kindly start this very new year with NOT any sympathy but with great empathy, Put yourself in others' shoes before taking any harsh decision. Don't put someone else in the abrasive situation due to your naivety. You may have no idea that what others journey is all about and how others are fighting to survive.
I wish you ALL a very Blessing year. May ALLAH almighty give us true faith and bless us with what we need the most.

P.s Criticism is allowed, let's discourse the aforesaid idea.
Admin: Faran ʚïɞ
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Thank you so much for understanding that a woman is more than what usually our society think of her.I can,t even believe a man can say these things.you know what, I,ve always felt no one will understand the thinking and feelings I have regarding different things and specially marriage.I am going subjective here because thats how I can explain it better.people don,t understand not every woman want to marry,not every woman is waiting for a knight to rescue her.She might have her own goals for life.She might have her own dreams.She might want to have house of her own,which solely belong to her.She might want to do something on her own.she might never want to leave her parents.She might not want to take responsibilities of a new family because she just want to lookafter her own parents,because they are the one who deserves her care and earning more than anyone else in the world.This world and it's ways sometimes just surprise me specially the way women are handled over here.
P.s.I have a very unconventional mind and most of the times people have difficulty in accepting my views.I give words to my thoughts only in my writing because paper is more tolerant than humans.This post was touching which made me a bit emotional so I couldn't control.

On relationships I would say that most of the people indulge in different relationships in order to satisty their lacks.They want to get from their partner what is wanting in them .Most of the times it's emotional dependence.So when they don't get their required support, things start falling apart.Believe me or not no one can complete you.First you need to understand yourself,you need to find out what is it that you want from life.what are the things that make you happy.Work for your own salvation and don,t throw your burden on any other person.Once again no one can complete you.

[QUOTE=Saira khattak;1082747]On relationships I would say that most of the people indulge in different relationships in order to satisty their lacks.They want to get from their partner what is wanting in them .Most of the times it's emotional dependence.So when they don't get their required support, things start falling apart.Believe me or not no one can complete you.First you need to understand yourself,you need to find out what is it that you want from life.what are the things that make you happy.Work for your own salvation and don,t throw your burden on any other person.Once again no one can complete you.[/QUOTE]These are some of the hard realities which we are not going to accept, by and large if you are NOT happy while single. You won't be happy in a relationship either. All you need to understand yourself in earnest and in first place.

What made you believe everyone is looking for someone or to say it bluntly looking for a lover?Is it really important to have "someone special"(in conventional sense)in your life.
P.S.you said criticism is welcome.I just have difficulty accepting this view.

[QUOTE=Saira khattak;1082771]What made you believe everyone is looking for someone or to say it bluntly looking for a lover?Is it really important to have "someone special"(in conventional sense)in your life.
P.S.you said criticism is welcome.I just have difficulty accepting this view.[/QUOTE]Hahaha... It may not be that much true in female's perspective, a girl like you but it is true for nascent social media users. Actually I collated that with social sites esp. Fb, whatsapp and Instagram etc
If you still don't believe me then visit some groups, you will see that how much people are striving to impress others while getting theirs attention. In real life people may have some sort of sense but behind the screen that is concealed where people take much advantage of it.

[QUOTE=Farhan Kaif;1082791]Hahaha... It may not be that much true in female's perspective, a girl like you but it is true for nascent social media users. Actually I collated that with social sites esp. Fb, whatsapp and Instagram etc
If you still don't believe me then visit some groups, you will see that how much people are striving to impress others while getting theirs attention. In real life people may have some sort of sense but behind the screen that is concealed where people take much advantage of it.[/QUOTE]
I see.I have no idea of social media as I don,t use any of these things except WhatsApp and that too make me sick sometimes.I love solitude more than anything else.I know I,m little weirdo for today,s world ,so sorry my knowledge of these things is limited.you might be right.

[QUOTE=Farhan Kaif;1082724][SIZE="3"][FONT="Trebuchet MS"]A very better but bitter Message of 2019 to ALL social media victimized young generation who are in search of a true life partner in a fake world of social media. Today, I am going to open your eyes with the smacks of veracity.
Whether you admit it or NOT but every single of us is athirst of a true lover and always think that this year may reveal their dreams get true but before initiating this new year and fall into a relationship with someone, you must think carefully about what you are going to do?
A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle it lightly. Are you ready for a relationship with her/him? Are you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually well mature to meet her/his needs?
Being sexually or emotionally attracted to her/him means absolutely nothing. It isn't a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your frustration or your hormones messing with your mind. A woman is more than her body and her sexuality. She has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that?
This person has a history. Can you handle it? S(he) has a past. Can you handle it? Can you handle her/his mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle her/his dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? S(he) already had a life before S(he) met you. Can you fit into it and help to improve her/his life furthermore? Love is a commitment. Are you ready to commit your life to help her/him grow and become all that S(he) can be, by God's grace?
Is S(he) valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of HER/HIS dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her/his all the Lord plans for her/him to be? If you are not ready, don't just bother her/him. Before you open your mouth to say 'I love you', ask yourself if this is not just a moment of your ‘emotional madness'. A person needs much more than 'I love you'. S(he) needs your dedication. If you are not ready to make that loyalty which will lead to a successful marriage, then please leave her/him alone in peace and stop wasting her/his valuable time and useful resources.
Sorry!!! if something felt heavy to you but the truth is that sun can't be hidden while keeping hands on eyes. We must confront with these kinds of realities and accept these truths viz-a-viz. Kindly start this very new year with NOT any sympathy but with great empathy, Put yourself in others' shoes before taking any harsh decision. Don't put someone else in the abrasive situation due to your naivety. You may have no idea that what others journey is all about and how others are fighting to survive.
I wish you ALL a very Blessing year. May ALLAH almighty give us true faith and bless us with what we need the most.

P.s Criticism is allowed, let's discourse the aforesaid idea.
Admin: Faran ʚïɞ
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Its been a year that i have logged into Css forum's account.The honesty of your message sort of compelled me to do so.Anyone can hardly disagree with you on this subject.I remember those days when social media was a new thing.It was accessible to few people,mostly educated ones.At the begining of social media revolution most users hesitated to share personal information.After 2010 internet became accessible to almost everyone.Soon common people poured their privacy in public domain.People started sharing their personal details,their family details and family photos.All this information to unknown people,and amazingly for what?yup you got it,for 'likes'.
Now,what worries me most is the negative affect of social media on adolescents.They do not know what kind of people are sitting behind glamourous selfies.Particularly the young ones,they neither understand their own vulnerability nor people's nefarious intentions.
For adults,the impact is more worrisome.They are constantly being fed with false and negative information.
Farhan, you have raised an important issue.i appreciate that.Our people are gradually understanding the intricacies of social media.In my opinion,our people still need guidance about the positive use of social media.
thanks
p.s
happy new year

[QUOTE=fahadzafar;1083130]Very well written and i am amazed that you are very uoung and your way of thinking is very mature bless you[/QUOTE]

Thank You Sir, for your kind words.
Let me add something here,
Our age doesn’t define our maturity,
same like, our grades don’t define our intellectual power
and others rumors also don’t define us.
What defines us; our own [B]ACTIONS[/B], which are going to be judged here and hereafter too.

May ALLAH bless you too.

[QUOTE=Farhan Kaif;1082724][SIZE="3"][FONT="Trebuchet MS"]A very better but bitter Message of 2019 to ALL social media victimized young generation who are in search of a true life partner in a fake world of social media. Today, I am going to open your eyes with the smacks of veracity.
Whether you admit it or NOT but every single of us is athirst of a true lover and always think that this year may reveal their dreams get true but before initiating this new year and fall into a relationship with someone, you must think carefully about what you are going to do?
A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle it lightly. Are you ready for a relationship with her/him? Are you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually well mature to meet her/his needs?
Being sexually or emotionally attracted to her/him means absolutely nothing. It isn't a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your frustration or your hormones messing with your mind. A woman is more than her body and her sexuality. She has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that?
This person has a history. Can you handle it? S(he) has a past. Can you handle it? Can you handle her/his mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle her/his dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? S(he) already had a life before S(he) met you. Can you fit into it and help to improve her/his life furthermore? Love is a commitment. Are you ready to commit your life to help her/him grow and become all that S(he) can be, by God's grace?
Is S(he) valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of HER/HIS dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her/his all the Lord plans for her/him to be? If you are not ready, don't just bother her/him. Before you open your mouth to say 'I love you', ask yourself if this is not just a moment of your ‘emotional madness'. A person needs much more than 'I love you'. S(he) needs your dedication. If you are not ready to make that loyalty which will lead to a successful marriage, then please leave her/him alone in peace and stop wasting her/his valuable time and useful resources.
Sorry!!! if something felt heavy to you but the truth is that sun can't be hidden while keeping hands on eyes. We must confront with these kinds of realities and accept these truths viz-a-viz. Kindly start this very new year with NOT any sympathy but with great empathy, Put yourself in others' shoes before taking any harsh decision. Don't put someone else in the abrasive situation due to your naivety. You may have no idea that what others journey is all about and how others are fighting to survive.
I wish you ALL a very Blessing year. May ALLAH almighty give us true faith and bless us with what we need the most.

P.s Criticism is allowed, let's discourse the aforesaid idea.
Admin: Faran ʚïɞ
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Brother even though I don't completely agree with your list of readiness for this and that before entering into a relationship but I won't comment on that since I am not your audience i.e social media victimized generation.
Instead I would like to add few things or you can say add a little information about your audience as per my little knowledge and observations. These people mostly aren't in search of true love on social media as you have assessed as their lovers change like seasons in a year. They (most of them) are just passing their time or reflexing on natural attraction and curiosity towards opposite gender. Many don't have even profile picture of their own. And when the time comes for a serious relationship, they happily get engaged or married as per their parents' wishes or by mutual likeness (parents+couple) without caring much about what they have been doing in previous years on social media.
I have tried to present a ground reality without indulging in rightness or wrongness of an action as we already know what we are allowed or not allowed to do in Islam.

Note:
Although it is evident from my writing but still I want to clarify two things.
1. They means both boys and girls.
2. I am talking about majority of that particular group which you have called "Social media victimized young generation", not 100%