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Originally Posted by Farhan Kaif
A very better but bitter Message of 2019 to ALL social media victimized young generation who are in search of a true life partner in a fake world of social media. Today, I am going to open your eyes with the smacks of veracity.
Whether you admit it or NOT but every single of us is athirst of a true lover and always think that this year may reveal their dreams get true but before initiating this new year and fall into a relationship with someone, you must think carefully about what you are going to do?
A relationship is not something you should rush into or handle it lightly. Are you ready for a relationship with her/him? Are you physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually well mature to meet her/his needs?
Being sexually or emotionally attracted to her/him means absolutely nothing. It isn't a sign of likeness, love or any other thing your mind may come up with. It may just be your frustration or your hormones messing with your mind. A woman is more than her body and her sexuality. She has a life which you should be able to blend with. Can you do that?
This person has a history. Can you handle it? S(he) has a past. Can you handle it? Can you handle her/his mistakes, failures and weaknesses? Can you handle her/his dreams without being intimidated and becoming jealous? S(he) already had a life before S(he) met you. Can you fit into it and help to improve her/his life furthermore? Love is a commitment. Are you ready to commit your life to help her/him grow and become all that S(he) can be, by God's grace?
Is S(he) valuable enough for you to devote a large portion of your life towards the accomplishment of HER/HIS dream? Are you ready to pour your resources into making her/his all the Lord plans for her/him to be? If you are not ready, don't just bother her/him. Before you open your mouth to say 'I love you', ask yourself if this is not just a moment of your ‘emotional madness'. A person needs much more than 'I love you'. S(he) needs your dedication. If you are not ready to make that loyalty which will lead to a successful marriage, then please leave her/him alone in peace and stop wasting her/his valuable time and useful resources.
Sorry!!! if something felt heavy to you but the truth is that sun can't be hidden while keeping hands on eyes. We must confront with these kinds of realities and accept these truths viz-a-viz. Kindly start this very new year with NOT any sympathy but with great empathy, Put yourself in others' shoes before taking any harsh decision. Don't put someone else in the abrasive situation due to your naivety. You may have no idea that what others journey is all about and how others are fighting to survive.
I wish you ALL a very Blessing year. May ALLAH almighty give us true faith and bless us with what we need the most.
P.s Criticism is allowed, let's discourse the aforesaid idea.
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I have to add some basic points in this thread too ;
1. Islamic perspective : Adults need to have a life partner. As Islam maintains that husband is a guardian and wife is a nurturer. ( also a wife can have a job also)
2. it is not just about the needs and past of a girl.
If you have a good mind, you can have the position of a responsibility (I.e being a husband). If men/women do not choose a life partner. The needs of their old age are not meet. Then who will care around. As it is up to the male kid(s). One or more. Who have to carry on this responsibility of the aged parents.
3. Mature people should not be considered as " social media victimized generation ". Unless they have guardians/ caretakers ( father/elder siblings especially brothers and/or nurturers to guide. If, in case such a situation one faces, he may love a girl , or love to have a life partner, Where the groom family may/will not accept such a person - just backed up by his emotions, in the case of a daughter of someone. Unless he is fully grown. - which you can call maturity. Learned people especially. Who may get a job and can avail the girl of his choice. However such, "abondened by the groom family", cases ( a person without guidence of parrents/siblings ) may be not even more than 1%. The problem which later get resolved with marriage. I mean finding a caretaker. I.e Wife.
4. Girls will not turn into feministic woman. And that is the point where in one of the Ahadith, it is a saying of the last messenger(s.a.w.w). "To get into marital relationship". Also for increasing ummah, one must play the role. Where woman need to be the a flourished subject and should complete the equation of their marital life.
5. From where can a girl find the solution to her erotic right, a sunnah also. As prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) played himself that role. Been proved from his kids.
Farhan has portrayed boy/girl gender against one another. Although it is an opposite to each other's gender concern. Which helps in the body balance equilibrium and helps in removimg dullness from the mind also, along with making the eyes cool.and clear. NVM . It is a sunnah. As I aforesaid.
And getting tied with each other , in the intended relationship , is Mustahab.
6. Proving yourself to God as a striver being muslim is also a point in this intended concern .
7. In Social Life, a boy and his family is looked down on. If he does not marry . Same is the case of a girll also, who is looked down on. As she and her famoly is thought vulgur. If she does not marry. But this is the case mostly in suburban regions . In urban areas people need also to to take the concern in heed to go ahead in life with serenity.
8. In Family Life, if other girls in.a.family marry, the unmarried one is thought thoughtless and bad. She herself feels bias from such married females relative for herself ( No offense, so don't mind).
9. Being, The citizens of Pakistan, also help the state machinery through adding manpower to it, with their talent. By being a good guardian and a good nurturer. Don't put yourself off from that responsibility.
10. Social media, is mostly used for fun and.enjoyment or then for updates to stay got inbolved in life.
- Don't use social media for finding a Life Partner. Use it instead for wise objectives. Not fool.
- Don't get blended and invested in social media that much, to not get hurt your feelings.
- Don't bother your own self, for a silly reason.
11. Also, Social Media, means a phrase to be used for marketing. Not for marital connections. Because if you use it as a background for your marital connection. It means that your are choosing a wrong track.to offer your your heart. Which be kept serene. Before the social media trend, people did also get marry. Modern world and digital era does not mean that you should live with the loss.of the standards of your life. So assign the responsibility of choosing your "Life Partner" to your elders ( parents / elder siblings).
Regards.