Tuesday, September 14, 2010
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Be less angry; Be more powerful.
Can you still remember the last time you felt angry? What was it you felt so angry about? Did someone say anything bad against you? Did someone hurt you? Did someone hurt a loved one? Have you seen a terrible violence or injustice done against another person?
There are so many things that drive us to anger, so many things that frustrate us. And despite of it all, the world around us tells us to behave, forgive, let go and manage our anger. What is anger management? Can it really be accomplished? Most people can so easily say how we should repress the intense feeling we felt within. They can even judge us and tell us we’re not so good after all, since we cannot control our anger. A lot of these people don’t know what they’re talking about and mistake passivity to control. Not reacting isn’t management of anything. (Note however that acting carelessly without regard for the consequences is also not acceptable.)
Anger is just a reaction. It’s like fear or excitement or disgust. It’s not the source of our troubles. It only signifies where we have trouble in. It isn’t anger that we should focus on managing. What we should focus on is managing ourselves and our powers.
Let me acquaint you with what anger really is. Anger is simply being powerless to do what it is you wanted to do. So someone said bad things against you? You felt angry because you weren’t able to stop that person from hurting your feelings. So someone did some kind of injustice to a person close to you. You feel angry because you weren’t able to stop that person from doing the evil thing that he has done. If only you weren’t so helpless. If only you were powerful enough!
In order to control anger, we must learn to master ourselves first and be proactive. Why get angry when someone tells you bad things? Is their opinion that valuable to you? Is your self worth attached to how they see you? Being angry in these situations may only signify a lack of self confidence or of self acceptance. Nobody needs to be perfect. And nobody needs to be faultless in order to be loved.
Other things that make us angry include inability to stop bad things from happening. Again, we must learn to be proactive. If we keep on being undisciplined with our thoughts and emotions, we will also keep on attracting undesirable things into our lives. If we don’t take control of ourselves, somebody else will, somebody with more willpower, somebody with a more passionate goal than you. Take responsiblity for your own life and you will be less of a victim. You will feel less angry.
Another thing that we don’t usually do is to pray for the things that matter to us. Praying is sending your will and desires to God, to the Universe. Praying is also sending a protective shield to our loved ones. It is best to pray than to neglect our loved ones in our thoughts and then to get angry later when something bad happens to them. Evil acts. What happens when ‘good’ remains passive? Whose will shall prevail?
Anger signifies our powerlessness to do something, to do the good we’ve always wanted to do. God has not given you a spirit of fear, but of POWER, of LOVE and of SOUND MIND. You are not powerless. God is not powerless. Be less angry. Be more POWERFUL!
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