“And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents”

[al-‘Ankaboot 29:8]

“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”

[al-Israa’ 17:23]

In al-Saheehayn it is reported that Ibn ‘Abbaas said: “The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) was asked which deed is the best? He said, ‘Faith in Allah and His Messenger, then honouring one’s parents…’”

Secondly: obeying and honouring one’s parents is a means of entering Paradise, as it was reported in Saheeh Muslim from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “He is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed.” It was said, “Who, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “The person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime but he does not enter Paradise.”

Thirdly: Respecting and honouring them brings friendship and love.

Fourthly: respecting and obeying them is a way of showing gratitude to them because they are the ones who brought you into this world. You should also show gratitude towards them for bringing you up and taking care of you when you were young. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents”

[Luqmaan 31:14]

Fifthly: if a person honours his parents this may be the cause of his own children honouring him. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Is there any reward for good other than good?’

[al-Rahmaan 55:60]

And lastly, maintaining the ties of kinship (which includes the parents) is a reason for having your lifespan extended and rizq (provision) increased.

The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.”

[Sahihl Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim]

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The deeds are according to the intention

Umar bin Al-Khattab (radi Allahu anhu) reported: The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The deeds are considered by the intentions, and a person will get the reward according to his intention. So whoever emigrated for Allah and His Messenger, his emigration will be for Allah and His Messenger; and whoever emigrated for worldy benefits or for a woman to marry, his emigration would be for what he emigrated for.”

[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]