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Originally Posted by zuhaib ahmed
My goodness!
First thing, if one asks the girl about her past. If she is innocent and tells truth, the respect of boy will be decreased from the sight of girl.
2nd thing, if one asks the girl about her past. If she is not innocent and speaks the truth or tells the lie. The respect of girl will be decreased from the sight of boy. In both cases there is destruction.
Had Prophet Mohammad asked her wives about their pasts? No-way, he didn't, even logic says NO.
So, if He didn't. It is better one should not ask.
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In my opinion a person must ask her wife about her past in following words:
Mujhay koi akhtiyar nahi k main tum say poochon tumhary past k baray main. Aor tum bhi iss maamly main azad ho k tum sach batayo ya nahi. Magar, mustaqbil main kisi bhi problem say bachny k liye agar tum chaho to mujh say discuss kar sakti ho. Phir larky ko pehly apny past k baray main batana chahye.
Aisa karny say donon main confidence barhy ga aor wesa nahi hoga jesa meri story main huwa. Shukar hay k yeh Shadi say pehla huwa werna mery liye mushkil ho jata maaf karna. Aor kisi ki batayi hoi chhoti si baat mujhay buhat bari lagti.