Salaam,

@Qurratulain
Sure, we will be waiting for ur precious thoughts on the topic.

@North Star

The key points in Islam about war are as under
1) Not to attack the enemy without prior intimation (a surprise attack)
2) Killing of innocent civilians is strictly prohibited
3) If the attacker is sure of his death, and that the activity is pre-planed, then the death is not even close to shahadat - it is haraam or either makruh.

A brief account of these paradigms is given as under:
1) Surprise attack:
Since there has been clear evidence in the Islamic history of war that there is no such exhibition of a surprise attack. The reason for this is the dignity and pride of a Muslim warrior, who has his trust in Allah (SWT) and takes only Him as his Sole Benefactor and Protector. The basic belief of a Muslim concerns the Supremacy of Allah (SWT), Who Has Power over all things - whether it is triumph or shahadat. Under this paradigm of Islamic philosophy, a warrior is required to attack from the front and not to be a back stabber and trust Allah (SWT). The evidence from the history reveals that there used to be announced breaks in the combats between Muslims and Kuffaar, where Muslims could have the advantage by a surprise attack, but for their dignity they preferred not to.
And fight for the sake of God those who fight you: but do not commit excesses, for God does not love those who exceed (al-Baqara, 2:190)

2) Killing of non-combatants:
To this point, I think there has been quite a fruitful discussion, which has clearly concluded that killing of non-combatants is strictly prohibited in Islam. All the Fiqahs have the a unanimous declaration about this matter.

3) Pre-planned activity and surety of death:
If the attack involves a bomb placed on the body or placed so close to the bomber that when the bomber detonates it the bomber is certain to die, then the more correct position according to Islam is that it does constitute suicide. This is because the bomber, being also the one killed, is unquestionably the same as the immediate and active agent that killer = Qatil-e-Nafsah (self-killing, i.e. suicide). In Quran, Allah (SWT) Says:
and do not throw into destruction by your own hands! (al-Baqara, 2:195)
If the attack involves a bomb (such as the lobbing of a grenade and the like), but the attacker thinks that when it is detonated, it is uncertain whether he will die in the process or survive the attack, then this does not constitute suicide, and were he to die in this selfless act, he becomes what we properly call a martyr or hero (Shaheed). This is because the attacker is not the active, willing agent of his own death. Such as in the midst of an ongoing fierce battle against an opponent's military unit, whether ordered by his commanding officer or whether owing to his own initiative, the soldier makes a solo charge and as a result of that initiative manages to turn the tide of the day's battle but dies in the process (and not intentionally at his own hand). The person is no-doubt a Shaheed. It is only permissible for him to advance (and suffer the consequences) if he knows that he will be able to fight effectively until he is killed, or knows that he will be able to demoralize the hearts and minds of the opponents. Do keep in mind that this is only permissible in a direct ace to face combat.
Another case, which needs to be elaborated here, is that if a Mujahid commits an act like ramming a vehicle in the camp of the opponents, then it is also allowed when there are direct face to face combats and that there are no other means left to fight e.g. arms and ammunition etc. But an exception in this rule is that any commander cannot order such an advance to his soldiers - it is merely the own act or will of the Mujahid, where he rationalizes completely that by doing so he can save other lives and his land, and that he has no other options left. However, some scholars have termed it as a dubious affair as like if there is a female who kills herself before subduing to a rape. Though, it leaves no blame on her behalf by the Islamic law, if she becomes a subject of rape. However, if she kills herself instead of subduing, then it shall not be considered as a full-fledged suicide.
The mere point of distinction between the discussed sort of sacrificial attacks and the suicide attack is that the sacrificial attacks are not a pre-planned activity, rather they are a there and then sort of decisions and the targets are exclusively military.
Conclusively, I must say that these sort of schools which incubates such suicide bombers are America’s own Frankenstein. America used the Afghans to bring down USSR and in the Middle-East, it has always backed up Israel, and also has provoked affairs which leads the Muslims so desperate that they astray from the right path in fury of retaliation. I don’t have any proofs but have an intuitive feeling that America is somehow involved in backing up such affairs and such schools so that they should always have a reason to stay in and complete its anti-Muslim plans.
Well, I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, but my generalist sort of perception exclaims that the only reason why these innocent Muslims are led astray to commit such acts is the misrepresentation of the glorious act of Shahadat. What they do not consider is that it is not possible without proper Jihaad. However, there are almost a thousand verses in Quran which suggests the Muslims to keep away from fight and do their best to avoid violence. A very well example can be sought out from Muslim history when in initial days of Islam, Muhammed (SAW) ordered some of the Muslims to migrate to Habsha and other parts. Another example was the great boycott of Muslims by the Kuffars, when Muhammed (SAW) and his companions left out for Shaeb-e-Abi-Talib.
Though, Pakistan has banned the entry of the neighboring Afghan Muslims.

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