Thursday, August 01, 2013
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Originally Posted by Maria Iqbal
I've always wondered this that why marriage is called a beautiful relationship. There's nothing beautiful in it. People marry for personal gains. They usually find someone 'young' with 'pleasing' external appearance. Who's gonna love you in this material world when you've lost teeth and the lustre of your skin? Marriage is nothing more than a commitment over a piece of paper which allows one to treat and be treated happily as an object.
Love is beyond this all, like that of mother and father / guru and his follower.
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Maria G to you, real love is only that you get from your parents, as you yourself have said above  If this is the case then why much stress has been laid on marriage and marital love by our Holy Prophet (S.A.W.W). Prophet Peace Be Upon Him once said,
"When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
( Marriage quotation from Bayhqi)
At another place, A person asked: "Who is the best woman?" Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam replied: "The best woman is one who pleases her husband when he looks at her, when he asks her to do something she obeys him, and she does not do anything that may displease him with regard to his wealth and honour."
Read This:
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "When a woman troubles or displeases her husband in this world, the hûr of jannah that has been set aside for him says: "May Allah curse you! Do not trouble him. He is your guest for a few days. Soon he will leave you and come to me."
And This:
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "When a man calls his wife to engage in sexual intercourse with him and she does not go and because of this he sleeps away angrily, the angels continue cursing this woman till the morning."
And this also:
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "When the husband calls his wife, she should go immediately to him even if she is busy at her stove." In other words, no matter how important a task she may be busy with, she should leave it and go to him.
Isn't it enough?? :
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "Were I to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded the woman to prostrate to her husband. If the husband orders his wife to carry the boulders of one mountain to the next mountain, and the boulders of the next mountain to a third mountain, she will have to do this."
Dear sister, Don't be too grim. Marriage is by no means a piece of paper or just formal document or Nikah nama, rather it is something special that binds a man and a woman in a sacred relationship for the lifetime. Even this relation doesn't end here with the worldly life, rather, they tend to live together too in heavens.
A husband also has rights and duties: he should also be soft, kind-hearted, and loving to his wife.
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Man is [a perpetual] Anguish !
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