CSS Forums - Generation Gap:-

A generation gap is a popular term used to describe wide differences in cultural norms between members of younger generation and their elders.This can be defined as occuring when older and younger people donnot understand each other because of their different experiences.
In west this generation gap is based on different choices of music,habits,hobbies and polotics but in our country it is directly effecting both the elders and younger generation.Here gap is not in particular of music,politics etc but the gap is prominent in every field of life.From the choice of career in upcoming life to the choice of life partner this generation gap has an effect.
It is true our elders are more experienced have a close look on life but it doesnot mean they are right in every matter.
Lets see my father is a doctor he since my birth starts thinking his son to be a doctor also.Even if have no capbility,no intrest,no temprament of being doctor but still he will impose the conditions on me that you should have to become a doctor.In the presence of generation gap i am not able to sit with him discussing my problem telling him about my intrest ultimately choosing a field opposite to my intrest.At the end what happens?there are chances that i may get succeed but more chances are of failure.So what is the result?tension for both parents and children.If this generation gap doesn't exist i can discuss everything at ease with my parents.In every home there is a cold war between parents and children on Different issues like running a separate business,not willing to do engineering etc.During early childhood children used to obey everything whether he or she likes or not but with passage of time things do change we esatblish our own thoughts and are not ready to obey anyone.This cold war destructs the atmosphere of home.It is something about choice of career.There are other aspects also as someone don't want to marry his or her cousin or at present time thinks its better to study rather to have marriage but unable to talk with parents.As they are not in position to understand thinking their decision is right.This results in increasing number of divorces or arid atmosphere at home.If at the right time both parents and children have enough friendly relations these problems can be reduced.
Some other problems like why you are wearing this faded color jeans?Why your hair cut is like this?Why you were not on lunch?questions like this increases the distance towards parents.When they were young they had all of that time.Using dresses of their own choice,hairstyle etc.Then why not for us?
It is parent's duty to look after their children activities telling them what is wrong or right.But such meaning less objections simply creat distance.
There must be limits between children and parents it is right we should give them proper respect but that respect should be from heart not due to fear.This is not respect,as we are using computer as soon as we hear the voice of steps of our father we at once switching off the monitor taking book in hand pretending that we are studying.So that he may not get angry.We must have a friendly relation with our parents.As they see us we are not studying doing something else we may have the courage to tell them i am playing a game feeling little tired getting myself fresh,in return not getting scoldings but a calm attitude all right son carry on your work but give proper time to your studies also.Respect should be from heart.
Father is the creation of God who always feel happy seeing his children frightened of him.He throughout his life thinks his children really respects him.Feeling himself king of home.My mother is responsible for the distance between me and my father.I always wished to have friendly relations with him.But every time when i did a mistake my mother said to me if you did it again i will tell your father,he will punish you.Go to bed your father is about to come he will scold you if you are not sleeping.Why you are not studying i will tell your father.These things resulted in a fear of father that he always likes to punish me.Every time i saw him my breath was stopped.
If we closely observe the society the children who have friendly realtions with parents have complete well developed confident personality.On the other hand who live in father fear atmosphere are shy,inconfident and have flaws in personality.When these children get the chance to go outside the home in some hostels they usually get indulge theirselves in wrong deeds.They take the revenge of extra ristrictions applied to them.Simply destroying their own personality.Parents are equally responsible for this.
Everyday in news papers we read the news,A young girl sucided by hanging herself.A boy of 16yrs of age has taken pesticides.A couple left home and did court marriage seeking shelter.The main reason behind these incidents is generation gap.
Being a muslim its our responsibilty that we should respect our parents and follow them.But parents must also think are they doing right?
Besides all these facts there is a proven truth that our parents love us more than any body do.They are the only giving us unconditional love.But problem is that they don't express their love boldly thats why we are unable to understand their love.If they give us the confidence of their love we can have better relations with them there is no more sincere to us than our parents.Any time in our lives when we feel the need of a true friend we must look towards our parents,but the major hurdle in development of this friendship is generation gap.By understanding eachother we can overcome this generation gap.
By above discussion i don't mean that parents always follow their children either they are doing right or wrong.They must stop us from doing wrong things but the decision related to us should be made by mutual discussion.
Regards
Awais Ali Kazmi.