Marriage is a deeply flawed institution

[Call for Change]

"Marriage is a deeply flawed institution which often fails to meet the needs of both partners; instead it serves more faithfully the needs of society"

Dear fellows i have to write and article on this topic ..kindly give me suggestions and share your views about it. U can agree with this statement or disagree it is up to you.

thanking in anticipation

Regards,

[Xeric]

Marriage (formation of a family) is the basic unit which forms a society. As we know man is social animal so it is not possible to gratify human needs without this institution. Needs of the society in small scale are the needs of the partners.

[Call for Change]

Originally Posted by Xeric

Marriage (formation of a family) is the basic unit which forms a society. As we know man is social animal so it is not possible to gratify human needs without this institution. Needs of the society in small scale are the needs of the partners.

thanks i am gonna write in the favor of marriage for sure, but i want a striking point ...i am writing after long time on a request of a friend so really don't know how i am gonna handle this topic

[mano g]

Originally Posted by Call for Change

"Marriage is a deeply flawed institution which often fails to meet the needs of both partners; instead it serves more faithfully the needs of society"

Dear fellows i have to write and article on this topic ..kindly give me suggestions and share your views about it. U can agree with this statement or disagree it is up to you.

thanking in anticipation

Regards,

Yes, in the sense that both the partners keep on living together, whether they are happy with each other or not...only to satisfy the society, as broken marriages are not acceptable for the society, so both the partners have to compromise throughout their life,,,,,,although i also disagree with the topic, so apart from hapiness many social factors interrupt this personal sort of relation

[SADIA SHAFIQ]

personally ,i do not think so marraiage institution is fllawed and i differed due to following accounts.

1.life starts from this institution

2.civilization and culuture formation is done by this

3.keep social pressure over offspring

4.bind relatively and defend the native of their clans

5.give importance to religion and and from these primary groups one get education from all spheres of knowledge

6.avoid sins

7.preserve the identity of one culture --as new ones are born

8.respect level is in this institution is like pyramid in which elders get utmost respect so best way to preseve folk ways and mores

9.define social stauus

and many more you can add

why this institution has become flawed in modern society

1.migration and lost of primary gruops association that lead toward crimes

2.lack of tolerance between spouses that result in single parent family and broken families

3.per-marital sexual relations as maariages are being delayed

4.elederlry status has been lost due to broken structures

5.women elopement is an other point

6.child abuse due to increasing divorce rates as in some cases both spuses are not ready to keep their child with them or they re-married .in that case orphan house are common examples or they have to live with thier uncles or naniz and some time thet neglect the needs of child and child become victim of this

[Sociologist PU]

Marriage is a Social Institution that fulfils certain human needs in a society. However, its role is different from culture to culture as in some cultures it is still performing well while in some other cultures it has become a flawed institution due to changes in the needs and behaviour of individuals.

In Eastern societies, it still perform well as it regulate the most important physiological need of sex/reproducation for the members of society so it is doing well, while in western societies this need is being fulfilled without involving this institution and so it has become weaker or "flawed"

So the role of this institution vary from society to society and we cant generalize it for whole human society. In the context of pakistani society, its role is still strong due to various socio-religious considerations that play an important role in society.

[Muhammadian]

If the family is the basis of the society, and the basis of the family is the division of labour between husband and wife, and the upbringing of children is the most important function of the family, then such a society is indeed civilised. In the Islamic system of life, this kind of a family provides the environment under which human values and morals develop and grow in the new generation; these values and morals cannot exist apart from the family unit. If, on the other hand, free sexual relationship and illegitimate children become the basis of a society, and if the relationship between man and woman is based on lust, passion and impulse, and the division of work is not based on family responsibility and natural gifts; if the role of women is merely to be attractive, sexy and flirtatious, and if women are freed from their basic responsibility of bringing up children; and if, on her own or under social demand, she prefers to become a hostess or a stewardess in a hotel or ship or air company, thus using her ability for material productivity rather than the training of human beings, because material production is considered to be more important, more valuable and more honourable than the development of human character, then such a civilisation is 'backward' from the human point of view, or 'jahili' in Islamic terminology.

The family system and the relationship between the sexes determine the whole character of a society and whether it is backward or civilised, jahili or Islamic. Those societies which give ascendance to physical desires and animalistic morals cannot be considered civilised, no matter how much progress they may make in industry or science. This is the only measure which does not err in guarding true human progress.

In all modern jahili societies, the meaning of 'morality' is limited to such an extent that all those aspects which distinguish man from animal are considered beyond its sphere. In these societies, illegitimate sexual relationships even homosexuality, are not considered immoral. The meaning of ethics is limited to economic affairs or sometimes to political affairs which fall into the category of 'government interests'.

Among jahili societies, writers and journalists advise both married and unmarried people that free sexual relationships are not immoral. However, it is immoral if a boy uses his partner, or a girl uses her partner, for sex, while feeling no love in his or her heart. It is bad if a wife continues to guard her chastity while her love for her husband has vanished; it is admirable if she finds another lover...

From the point of view of 'human' progress, all such societies are not civilised but are backward.

The line of human progress goes upward from animal desires toward higher values. To control the animal desires, a progressive society lays down the foundation of a family system in which human desires find satisfaction, as well as providing for the future generation to be brought up in such a manner that it will continue the human civilisation, in which human characteristics flower to their full bloom. Obviously a society which intends to control the animal characteristics, while providing full opportunities for the development and perfection of human characteristics, requires strong safeguards for the peace and stability of the family, so that it may perform its basic task free from the influences of impulsive passions. On the other hand, if in a society immoral teachings and poisonous suggestions are rampant, and sexual activity is considered outside the sphere of morality, then in that society the humanity of man can hardly find a place to develop.

Thus, only Islamic values and morals, Islamic teachings and safeguards, are worthy of mankind, and form this unchanging and true measure of human progress, Islam is the real civilisation and Islamic society is truly civilised.

Reference:
::Kalamullah.Com::

Other Good References:
http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Ingr...20Marriage.pdf
Kalamullah.Com | Fiqh of Marriage

[mano g]

you people are absolutely right but see call for change has mentioned that she has to write an article on it, so that's why i have given one of the aspect by keeping in view this factor, otherwise no doubt marriage is essential for the personal as well as social life.....sunnat ko kabhi bura na kaha ja skta hai, na hikmat se khali ho skti hai...

[Faseeh Muhammad]

Outline by Sadia Shafiq is a very comprehensive one. to it you may add following points as well:

Start with Khalil Jibran's Statement...
"Har mard main aik namukamal aurat hoti ha, har aurat main aik namukamal mard hota ha"
(In every man there is an incomplete women, in every women there is an incomplete man)

-Adam and Eve: A symbol of love & Trust
-Their Journey to Earth
-First blood shed on Earth was after marriage
-Marriage is essential of society building (General Discourse)
-Moral blessing of Marriage (Discourages prostitution)
-Hadiths: Its Sunnah, Women to worship husband, husband to have half the blessings of world if got a dutiful & loving wife.
-Negative effects of not getting married: moral, social implication
-European countries: no marriage institution resulting in social decay.
-Psychological effects of Marriage: one gets more responsible and thoughtful, put in more effort to improve economic conditions, getting married in healthy activity says doctors.
-Marriage: a Relation that one enjoys (and extends its helping hand) even when your children are busy in marry making when you are old.
-Next Generation: A dutiful, educated generation is ensured with this institution.
-Conclude

[Call for Change]

Thank you so much it is so nice of you guys. i was literally short of time but i couldn't say no to my friend. I am very much thankful from the core of my heart.

Allah bless all of you.