If winter comes can Spring be far behind? This is the last line of Shelley’s famous poem: “Ode to the West Wind.” The poet depicts the terrible effect of the west wind in different spheres. The line is in fact an epitome of optimism. Though for the present the cold winter be the ruler all around, yet the very approach of winter means the impending arrival of the spring season soon after win¬ter. Winter must at last come to an end. It must be followed by the colourful spring which brings colourful flowers and bird’s sweet songs. After all, the circle of seasons must continue moving unhindered.

Day is followed by night and night by day. Similarly, in life every period of sorrow and despair has at last to come to end. It is followed by a period of peace, comfort and joy. We must have a firm belief in the goodness of things and have a strong self-confidence. There is no occasion for feeling dismayed.

“If hopes are dupes, fears may be liars.”

In the famous story, "The last Leaf", for example, Johnsy is sick and is waiting for her death - indeed a cold misfortune of life. But the entire situation twists with an irony in the end when she survives and instead of her the painter Behrman dies who was in fact her savior. The state of the character somehow signifies the fact that if an evil situation has befallen in one's life, the good news that is to be followed is not far behind.

Therefore, the best attitude in life is that of an optimistic stoic. Joys and sorrows should be treated in their own stride. They should be given equal treatment. Robert Browning was a highly optimistic poet. He had another way of looking at things. If he ever had to face failure in life, he consoled himself by telling himself that he will get his reward or success in heaven or in the next life. One famous psychologist of France taught the men the art of auto-suggestion. He advised them to say unto themselves: “Every day in every way. I get better and better.” Auto Suggestion for a better and happier life is the great art in modern day life which modern psychology has given to us. WEB. Yeats, the famous poet of early twentieth century says,

Thus, we must rest assured that our sorrows, if any, are short-lived and a period of joy awaits us. Such thinking will always maintain our equipoise and peace of mind.



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Foolish people are often reckless, attempting feats that the wise avoid. This saying is from “An Essay on Criticism,” by Alexander Pope and relates to decision making. Actually, the proverb warns us against hasty and thoughtless action. It is unwise to be hasty. Prudent people are always very careful in their dealings with others. They think twice before they act as Napoleon Hill says,

"Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another."

So, the wise and prudent people think of the consequences of their actions and will act only if they can succeed. Such people won’t jump to hasty conclusions and so they normally succeed in what they do. But foolish people act hastily without proper thought. They won’t think of the consequences of their actions. They will jump to hasty conclusions and so they be unsuccessful in their endeavours. When foolish people lose the game by acting hastily, wise men win it by playing it with patience.

Therefore, it is said that fools enter into critical situations without much thought where even angels fear to go. A person should think twice before he undertakes a project. If he takes any step rashly and recklessly, it can prove to be dangerous. Work done recklessly is not at all profitable. If a small country decides to fight against a big powerful country, the former will surely meet with failure; such a thoughtless decision will destroy that country. When a person decides to start a business, he should think twice. Foolish people always take rash decisions and it is wrong. Such people are led more by their instincts than their thoughts. Thus the proverb cautions us against reckless acts and reminds “Haste makes waste.”

In a nutshell, when considering an action be sure to consider all angles before making the final decision. A hasty foolish or bad action can land you in a modern day 'Hell" where further consideration would have had you take another course. The assumption is that there are no angels in Hell. Another proverb in support of this is "Look before you leap".



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Man’s brain is a workshop. The wonderful inventions which we enjoy today are all made by the brains of men. Man can create anything constructive as well as destructive using his brain. When a person is busy with some work, he has no time to think of doing anything harmful to others. The person who has nothing to do and whose mind is idle may think of evils things. Idling is dangerous. When we have nothing to do, our minds turn into evil thoughts. Thoughts breed words and words lead to action. An idle man tries to put into practice his evil thoughts and this will cause disorder in the society. A person whose mind is devoid of noble ideas is full of evil thoughts. Only destructive ideas will form in his mind. Keeping the mind idle is dangerous for the person and the society. That is why it is said that an idle man’s mind is the devil’s workshop.

The story of the ‘Idle Monkey and the Wedge’ is a fine example of the proverb. Long ago, a merchant was building a temple in the middle of his garden. The workers partly sawed a log of wood and fixed a wedge in it so that it does not close up and left for lunch. An idle monkey was watching this and having nothing to do got down from the tree and pulled the wedge. The wedge came off and trapped monkey into the rift of the log. The monkey was killed instantly.

The only remedy for this is to be engaged in some useful activity. People who have no work to do should try to find out ways and means to do something useful to others. The youngsters of today go astray because they do not try to do anything constructive. Their minds are preoccupied with harmful thoughts. If they are not given the right directions, they may become terrorists, looters and murderers. So it is always better to engage oneself in a useful activity.

Hence, the proverb entails that man is not made to be idle because the devil is supposed to have been exploit evil deeds and it uses the brain of men and women for its purpose. An idle man’s brain is easily approachable and once a brain is influenced by a devil, a person begins to possess evil thoughts and he does bad things as his activity is controlled by the devil. Thus it is important to keep the mind constructively occupied so that it will become God’s workshop. The proverb however does not refer to those moments when we spend time leisurely doing nothing.



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dear, with all honour to you i humbly correct this sentence in your explaination in the proverb "where there is a will,there is a way".you wrote"today we see that this thing which used to be consider as impossible have now became possible".it should be like this"today we see that this thing which used to be considered as impossible once have now become possible".

A Bad Workman Always Quarrels With/Blames His Tools

Human nature is such that none is prepared to accept his own deficiency, drawbacks and blemishes. A typist who often commits mistakes would blame the quality of the typewriters. Similarly an inefficient mechanic condemns the entire automobile industry. This is because we are used to finding faults with everyone and everything else except ourselves. Thus instead of improving ourselves, like a clumsy workman looks for scapegoats to thrust our faults on.

The bad workman quarrels with his tools, not because his tools are poor, but because he himself is off-balance inside, and has become quarrelsome by nature. It is seldom the case that shoddy workmanship is due to inadequate equipment or difficult working conditions. It results, for the most part, from the fact that the workman himself is shoddy and indifferent in his attitude. This is perhaps most evident in a student who does not fare well in his examinations. Instead of looking for reasons within himself, he looks outside for someone or something to blame such as a difficult question paper, a leaky pen or a wrathful examiner. Similarly a dancer who fails to perform well a particular event attributes his poor performance to the incompetent musicians, accompanists or to the poor stage management. A farmer who does not tend his crops blames his poor produce on everything and everyone other than his negligence. An employee who fails to get promoted is a common example of this proverb. Instead of self-analysis, he accuses his superior of favouritism and his promoted colleagues of sycophancy. He fails to realize that reward is proportional to input.

The most inspiring characters in history have been those who met their destinies without complaint, whose moral polarity enabled them to see opportunity where others saw only obstruction. The life of Abraham Lincoln is an example of the higher attitude toward events. Lincoln never quarrelled with conditions, though by all worldly standards there was ample occasion for him. He did not complain that good books were difficult to obtain, nor that light from oil lamps made reading impossible. If necessary, Lincoln read by light from the fireplace, whenever he had a book to read, and valued his schooling the more despite its hardships. The light that shone from his own illumined soul more than compensated for the darkness arising from events.

In a universe of Law, there is never an excuse for complaints, no matter how difficult the conditions, nor how poor one's tools may be. This does not mean that people are perfect nor that circumstances are always what they should be, but simply that complaining itself is out of the true.



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Spare The Rod And Spoil The Child

In the olden days, it was a widely accepted fact that the only way to discipline a child was to mete out some harsh punishment to him, usually physical. “Spare the rod, spoil the child” is an adage apt to those times. It says that whenever a child shows any signs of bad behaviour, it should be curbed through physical punishment. Sparing the rod would only amount to indulgence and acceptance of mischief on the parents’ part.

Whipping or beating up a child for even a minor offence was not uncommon in the days gone by. Corporal punishment was an accepted evil in schools. In fact, it was regarded a necessity to rein in the little boys and keep them from mischief. Brutal physical torture often had a negative impact on the young minds, giving rise to a morbid fear of adults and schoolmasters. William Blake, in his poem ‘ The school boy’ describes perfectly the predicament of a boy who hates going to school, for fear of having to face his stern teacher, who gives him nightmares. So, physical punishment has adverse psychological effects, for instance children live in constant terror of the adults around them. This may have an impact on their social lives as well. Problem of juvenile delinquency arise when young people look towards evil habits to give them solace from their fright.

Sometimes, a child may not realize that his parents, despite their stern exterior, do love him. Katherine Mansfield exemplifies this in her story ‘ The little girl’, where the child, Kezia, is always scared of her father, and wishes he was like other fathers, demonstrative and caring. When her father beats her for tearing up his speech, he appears to her in her dream in the form of a butcher. It is only another incident later on that makes her aware of her father’s concern for her.

Thereupon, parents need to realize that it is not physical punishment that succeeds, but strict yet affectionate guidance. A young person can be disciplined through a firm explanation of his flaws, and what is expected of him. Silence can also be a means of expressing disapproval. ‘spare the rod, spoil the child’ might literally apply to a very few extreme cases, but in view of the damage caused by corporal punishment to a child’s self-esteem and psychology, the “rod” should be modified to firm yet kind discipline.



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Manners Make the Man

A man is known to be good or bad according to the way he behaves towards others and under some circumstances. When his habits and manners are good, he is known to be a gentleman. A man with proper manners attracts the attention and admiration of everyone, whereas the man with ill-manners draws himself the ridicule and contempt of others. Cultivation of good manners should be started from the childhood and it is done so, it would become an asset in life. Thus, manners form the basis for every person's name and status in the society.

Manners include etiquette, politeness, sympathy, discipline and good social conduct. It also means being helpful and having respect for others. Well-mannered people are friendly, courteous and pleasant company. They are patient with others and get well with society for example there is a very common phrase-" Ladies First", where the ladies are given the privilege to be first. Therefore, apart from respecting elders it also is in reference to ladies, children and every part and parcel of the society as our Holy Prophet (PBUH) said, "Whoever does not respect elders or shows no kindness and compassion towards children is not a Muslim."

Good manners support us in achieving our goals in life – they help us to become successful in business, service or any profession. They cost nothing but pay us rich dividends but with workplaces becoming global, the office environment is becoming more and more diverse and less formal. Unfortunately, the fallout of this has been that common courtesies like politeness and good manners have taken a back seat. They are deemed less and less important in our professional as well as personal lives. The workplaces of today are competitive and conflict ridden, often giving rise to strong emotions. Is it any wonder then that traditional niceties and formalities have given way to contracted greetings and electronic wishes? Writing letters or thank you notes have become past, unheard of almost.

Hence, manners at the workplace are essential to retain the dignity and the professionalism in the organization. The concept of civility encompasses social manners, personal grooming and dressing, communicating right, cell phone etiquette and of course good manners. Good manners help in building cordial relationships and provide for a healthy environment at work. The ones of maintaining civility at the workplace is on the employees, who need to observe a certain code of conduct. While introducing a person or addressing somebody using the appropriate title like Mr. Mrs. or Miss makes a lot of difference Saying 'thank you' or 'sorry' might go a long way in building relationships as does a smile. Such gestures are always appreciated. If you are in the wrong accept it graciously and do apologize. Don't criticize others work or ideas in public .Never make lewd comments or use nasty expressions while talking. Always be neatly and formally attired for the workplace. Such professional etiquette will only help one become a successful individual in life and society.

As a result, good manners are a wealth, which we earn in our life, something, which is our own earning so one must always protect and preserve this goodwill. Bad mannered people are abhorred by society and they become misfits in society. People remain away from them because they cannot stand them or because they create a non-conductive atmosphere around them. We have to decide which side of the fence we want to be. Man is a social animal and society is our base so manners have to be a part of our life.



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Rome Was Not Built In A Day

Rome in the proverb stands for any great achievement. At one time, Rome was the capital of the Roman Empire as well as citadel of the Roman Catholic Church. It was Roman Emperor Augustus who is considered to be the real builder of Rome. Rome consisted of only a few hamlets when Augustus came to the throne. It took about 40 years for him to transform the face of Rome into a metropolis, adorned with beautiful mansions, theaters, temples, public baths and many other public buildings. So, it took a long time for this city to develop into a grand city of the world. In the same way every important task takes some time to be completed, likewise, we have to constantly pursue our goals; work more-harder; climb every small step of success ladder to reach much higher than sky to see ourselves at “top of the world”. Henceforth, there are two aspects of the matter. First, all big or important things take time to be accomplished. Secondly, one should never grow impatient if some work takes a long time. What is required is perseverance and not haste.

In many cases we find men becoming impatient to pluck the fruits of their labour instantaneously or overnight. They are like that foolish farmer who sowed the seed and went the next morning with a sickle in his hand to reap the crop. Great undertakings require hard work over a long period of time. It is childish either to desire a result without sufficient work for a certain period of time or to give up the attempt after some time. So, we must bear in mind haste makes waste. Aiming quick result is absolutely wrong .For example to be a professional doctor you have to go through all practical skills of surgery also. Getting them infused into your mind slowly and steadily. Imagine later when you are doing an operation a small mistake because of hasty attitude can sometimes cost a life also. Thus, great things in life cannot achieve instantly nor does success come to your door knocking every evening. Take for example the great wonders of the world. We often admire their greatness but are apt to forget the tremendous amount of money and material, human labour and time that have gone into their making. The Taj Mahal, a marvel of architectural workmanship took seventeen years to complete. The huge pyramids of Giza took several generations of Pharaohs to attain their overpowering magnitude and staggering height. The Great Wall of China is another case in point. In the same fashion, Milton took a quarter-century of years to complete his great epic, likewise, the most read book in the world ‘The Holy Quran' was revealed to Muhammad (S.A.W.W) in 23 years. These random examples are enough to prove the truth of the saying.

People in our country are impatient of the slow pace of our progress to prosperity. They often contrast our poverty with the affluence of the USA without bothering their heads with the facts that it took even the Western capital coupled with technical skill and the virgin soil of America about a hundred and fifty years to make the USA the rich and prosperous country that we admire. We cannot eradicate the poverty of centuries within a few decades. It will take time as Rome was not built in a day. Similarly a student who desires top the class has to devote most of his time in studying hard. He has to put in time and effort. He has to plan his schedule in a proper way from day one. Students who study at the nick of time end up getting bad scores.

Nothing can be achieved in a single day. There is nothing called instant success. Therefore one should have to keep patience, determination, dedication and work hard throughout his journey to reach his goal.



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Thanks for your great effort... Kindly share comprehensive note A contented mind is a blessing kind

A Contented Mind Is A Blessing Kind

The state of mind called “contentment” depends much more on our character than on the amount of our possessions. The discontented man may be heard to say that, if he were as rich as some neighbour whom he envies, he would be perfectly satisfied. Give him the particular amount of wealth that he has set his mind upon, and he will find some still richer man to envy, and be as discontented as ever. “A small coin of silver.” as the Persian Poet Sadi. says, “makes a beggar contented: Faridun with his kingdom of Persia is half satisfied.”

The possibility of remaining discontented in spite of success and prosperity arises from the insatiable nature of our desires, and the common tendency always to long for something better than our present condition. What is out of our reach seems valuable till we get it, and when possessed loses its value, so that it is natural for us to be always dissatisfied. This is unfortunately the character of most men. There are, however, some happily constituted persons who are by nature endowed with a contented frame of mind. It is also possible to cultivate a spirit of contentment. As discontent is nourished by the habit of comparing ourselves with our more fortunate neighbours, and thinking of the desirable things we have not got, those who wish to be contented should by an effort of will think of the blessings they enjoy and compare themselves rather with those who are less fortunate than themselves.

Hardly anyone in the world is so unfortunate as not to have many good things to be thankful for. Although a man may be very poor, he may be blessed with good health and enjoy the society of congenial friends. Another man is stationed in a lonely situation where he has no one to associate with, but perhaps he has a taste for reading, and is thereby able to enjoy the companionship of the great writers of all ages. The man who considers himself over-worked should remember that he would be much more inclined to be miserable if he had nothing to do. Even those who are afflicted by ill-health, the greatest of all sources of unhappiness, can often console themselves with the thought of the sympathy and kindness they have received from friends and relations, the depth of whose affections would never have been revealed to them had they been strong and well. All these instances endorse what Joseph Addison has remarked decades ago

There is also one source of satisfaction which is entirely independent of fortune, namely, the satisfaction of having always tried to do what is right. Fortune may deprive us of wealth, reputation, friends and health, but cannot force us to disobey our conscience; so that whatever blows evil destiny may inflict upon us, it is always possible to provide for ourselves the deep satisfaction that follows from the fulfilment of duty. This kind of satisfaction is not only attainable by everybody, but also nobler than any other.

For it must be remembered that all contentment is not equally worthy, and that sometimes discontent is preferable to tenement. As a rule, contentment should be aimed at, because it is the surest way of obtaining happiness. But there are circumstances under which it is right to refuse to be contented and happy. It is blameworthy to be contented to regulate our conduct in life by a low ideal, and to know the better course and follow the worse. It is blameworthy to consent to remain ignorant when we might obtain knowledge. The great fault of the Irish peasantry is want of a proper feeling of discontent. Their standard of comfort is so low that they make no strenuous effort to better their condition and provide themselves and their families with better houses and clothes. The same fault may be found with the peasantry of Pakistan, who are contented with wages too small to enable them to bring up their families in health and comfort.

While discontent occasioned by the greater prosperity of others is base envy, a similar feeling produced by the contemplation of the misery of others is the surest sign of a benevolent nature. It was this noble kind of discontent that moved Howard to devote his life to the amelioration of the condition of prisoners, and made it impossible for Buddha to live happily in his father’s palace.



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