Scientific Miracles in the Prophetic Teachings for a Cure of Anger

Hina 11(MISS Einstein) · #1 Sunday, October 25, 2009

Scientific Miracles in the Prophetic Teachings for a Cure of Anger

Here are some medical recommendations, published in one of the most important medical websites, to cure or avoid anger.

1- Abdullah Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) narrated that the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said:
"teach, promise, don't preach hardships and if one of you got angry he should stay silent"
(Imam Ahmed in his Musnad 1/329, in Saheih Al gaame' 693, in Al tyalessy 2608 and in Al adab Al mofrad 245 by Al Bukhary)...

The medical recommendation says:

Take a “time out”...counting to 10 before reacting...

2- Abu Thar Al Ghefarey (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Himsaid :
"if one of you got angry while standing he should sit till he calm down, and if he did not, he should lie down"
(Musnad of Imam Ahmed 5/152, Saheih Al gaame' 694, Fayd Al Kadeer, Al manawy 408, Abu Dawood 4782 which is corrected by Ibn Hebban 5688)...

The medical recommendation says:

Do something physically (meaning change your physical status)...

3- A narrative about the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) mentions that he said: "Anger comes from the devil, and the devil is created from fire; and water extinguishes fire; so if you got angry you should go for ablution"

The medical recommendation says:

Swim

4- Salman Ibn Sard narrated that two men came to the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) one insulting the other with an angry red face then the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said:
"There are words I know if he uttered, he would calm down; Allah forbid the devil Dieting "...

The medical recommendation says:

Find ways to calm yourself. Repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself such as “Take it easy!"

5- Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said:
" the strong is not the one who defeat the others; it is the one who can control his anger" (Al Bukhary and Muslim)

The medical recommendation says:

Think carefully before you say anything.

The scientific miracles in the Prophetic teachings:
The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) knows the human nature, he knows how hard it could be to control anger; especially if the reason is about religion or honor or money; so he (Peace Be Upon Him) prescribed his miraculous cure to control the anger and it's motivations, that can result in disasters. Now after fourteen centuries, medicine comes to prove and confirm that all what the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said had its positive reflections upon anger and its negative results.
The Prophet's acclamation for those who can control themselves
Abdullah Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) said that the Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) said:
"when you have three traits, Allah will protect you, cover your secrets with His mercy and consider you of the beloveds". They asked: what are they, Prophet(Peace Be Upon Him) of Allah? He said: "thanking Allah for His gifts, forgiving while having the power to revenge and cooling down in anger"
(Al Hakem 1/214 with correct reference and Al Baihakie's Al sho'ab 4/154.

By:

Dr. Mohamed Abd Al Lateef Al A'groody

Pharmacist and a searcher of the scientific miracles in Qur'an and Sunnah.

Hina 11(MISS Einstein) · #2 Sunday, October 25, 2009

Strategies for Controlling Your Anger

(American Psychological Association)

(Charles Spielberger, Ph.D., of the University of South Florida in Tampa; and to Jerry Deffenbacher, Ph.D., of Colorado State University in Ft. Collins, Colorado, a psychologist who specializes in anger management).

Everybody gets angry, but out-of-control rage isn't good for those around you, and it plays havoc with your own body. Here are some tips to help you 'simmer down.'

Relaxation:

Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down angry feelings. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.

Some simple steps you can try:
- Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm. Breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your 'gut.'
- Slowly repeat a calming word or phrase such as 'relax' or 'take it easy.' Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
- Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience from either your memory or your imagination.
- Non-strenuous, slow exercises such as yoga can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.

Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation.

Cognitive Restructuring:

Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more reasonable ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself, 'Oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything's ruined,' tell yourself, 'It's frustrating, and it's understandable that I'm upset about it, but it's not the end of the world and getting angry is not going to fix it anyhow.'

Be careful of words like 'never' or 'always' when talking about yourself or someone else. 'This machine never works,' or 'You're always forgetting things' are not just inaccurate; they also tend to make you feel that your anger is justified and that there's no way to solve the problem. They also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.

For example,

suppose you have a friend who is constantly late when you have made plans to meet. Don't go on the attack; think instead about the goal you want to accomplish--getting you and your friend there at about the same time. Avoid saying things like, 'You're always late! You're the most irresponsible, inconsiderate person Iíve ever met!' The only goal that accomplishes is hurting and angering your friend.

State what the problem is, and try to find a solution that works for both of you; or take matters into your own hands.

For example,
you might set your meeting time a half-hour early, so that your friend will, in fact, get there on time, even if you have to trick him or her into doing it! Either way, the problem is solved and the friendship isn't damaged.

Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won't make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse).

Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself. Remind yourself that the world is not 'out to get you,' you're just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life. Do this each time you feel anger getting the best of you, and it'll help you get a more balanced perspective.

Angry people tend to demand things:
Angry people tend to demand things:fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness to do things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are all hurt and disappointed when we don't get them; but angry people demand them, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger. As part of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature, and translate their expectations into desires. In other words, saying 'I would like' something is healthier than saying 'I demand' or 'I must have' something. When you're unable to get what you want, you will experience the normal reactions--frustration, disappointment, hurt--but not anger. Some angry people use their anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away.

Problem-Solving:

Sometimes our anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced, and often it's a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. Some people have a cultural belief that every problem has a solution, and it adds to their frustration to find out that this isn't always the case. The best attitude to bring such a situation is to focus not on finding the solution but rather on how to handle and face the problem.

Make a plan and check your progress along the way. (People who have trouble with planning might find a good guide to organizing or time management helpful.) Resolve to give it your best, but also not to punish yourself if an answer doesn't come right away. If you can approach it with your best intentions and efforts, and make a serious attempt to face it head-on, you will be less likely to lose patience and fall into all-or-nothing thinking, even if the problem does not get solved right away.

Better Communication:

Angry people tend to jump to--and act on--conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be pretty wild.
The first thing to do:
if you are in a heated discussion is to slow down and think your responses through. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.

Listen, too, to what underlies the anger. For instance, suppose you like a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your 'significant other' wants more connection and closeness. If he or she starts complaining about your activities, don't retaliate by painting you partner as a jailer, a warden, or an albatross around your neck.

It's natural to get defensive when you're criticized, but don't fight back; instead, listen to what lies beneath the words. Perhaps the message is that this person feels neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part to uncover this, and it may require some breathing space, but don't let your anger--or a partner's--make a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming disastrous.

Using Humor:

'Silly humor' can help defuse rage in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like. If you're at work and you want to call a co-worker a 'dirt-bag' or a 'single-cell life form,' for example, picture a large bag full of dirt, or an amoeba, sitting at your colleagueís desk, talking on the phone, and going to meetings. Do this whenever you want to call another person by a rude name. If you can, draw a picture of what the actual thing might look like. This will take a lot of the edge off your fury; and humor can often be relied on to help un-knot a tense situation.

The underlying message of highly angry people is 'Things oughta go my way!' Angry people tend to feel that they are morally correct, that anything blocking or changing their plans is an unbearable indignity that they should NOT have to tolerate. Maybe other people do, but not them.

When you catch yourself feeling that way, picture yourself as a supreme ruler who owns the streets and stores and office space, striding alone and having your way in all situations while others defer to you. The more detail you can get into your imaginary scenes, the more chance you have to realize that maybe you are being a little unreasonable; you'll also realize how unimportant the things you're angry about really are.

There are two cautions in using humor. First, don't try to just 'laugh off' your problems; rather, use humor to help yourself face them more constructively. Second, don't give in to harsh, sarcastic humor; that's just another form of unhealthy aggression.

What these techniques have in common is a refusal to take yourself too seriously. Anger is a serious emotion, but it's often accompanied by ideas that, if examined, can make you laugh.

Changing Your Environment:

Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the trap you seem to have fallen into, and all the people and things that form that trap.

Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some 'personal time' scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. For example, a working mother might make a standing rule that when she comes home from work, the first 15 minutes will be quiet time. With this brief respite, she will feel better prepared to handle demands from her kids without blowing up at them.

Some other tips for easing up:
- Timing. If you and your spouse tend to fight when you discuss things at night--perhaps you're tired, or distracted, or maybe it's just habit--try changing the times when you talk about important matters so these talks don't turn into arguments.

- Avoidance. If you get furious every time you walk by your child's chaotic room, shut the door. Don't make yourself look at what infuriates you. Don't say to yourself, 'Well, my child should clean up the room so I won't have to be angry!' That's not the point. The point is to keep yourself calm.

- Finding alternatives. If your daily commute through traffic leaves you in a state of rage and frustration, give yourself a project. Perhaps you could find a different route, one that's less congested or more scenic. Or find an alternative way to travel, such as taking a bus or commuter train.

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