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mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 10:58 AM

Why women are so special ?
 
This is a beautiful article:

[B][I]The woman in your life...very well expressed...[/I][/B]
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.



Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

[B][I]But not many guys understand this.......
Please appreciate "HER"[/I][/B]
I hope you will do....

orient Wednesday, October 12, 2011 11:10 AM

All it means, men and women are equal...... None is special....:roll

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 11:16 AM

It's just an appreciation and giving her credit of her identity and importance. It's all about one's perception that how exclusively you think...YES nothing else is so special in it. I hope you have understand it!!!!!!!!!:)

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 12:59 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362621]This is a beautiful article:

[B][I]The woman in your life...very well expressed...[/I][/B]
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.



Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

[B][I]But not many guys understand this.......
Please appreciate "HER"[/I][/B]
I hope you will do....[/QUOTE]


One who is a girl should be a girl not a man :)

She should understand this infact.

Samina Malik Wednesday, October 12, 2011 02:13 PM

That's why i don't appreciate women..working after marriage without any reason!yes if they really need it then they must go for it.

I mean why to suffer like hell,just stay at home..enjoy your degree..manage your home and chill.

Invincible Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:02 PM

[QUOTE=Samina Malik;362754]

enjoy your degree..[/QUOTE]

[B]What is use of that [U]Degree [/U]?[/B]

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:04 PM

you people are saying that because you have all financial resources, think about the girl who has to work outside her house to earn money due to some serious issues and problems, and even then her husband, brother , father or her son and ultimately the whole society don't give her respect or her actual position. AND remember anyone can face difficult times in life....Yes to this extent I agree that unnecessarily a woman should not take the extra burden being over ambitious. Kindly try to think from all perspectives.

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:08 PM

one thing more I would like to mention is that a women can do anything by remaining within the limits and doing a job for any reason is itself not a bad thing. The purpose of initiating this thread is just to analyze the mentality and thoughts of both males and females...

Samina Malik Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:08 PM

[QUOTE=Invincible;362789][B]What is use of that [U]Degree [/U]?[/B][/QUOTE]
Come on,its not necessary to use this degree outside the home only,At home,one can have so many opportunities to use that degree.

Invincible Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:19 PM

[QUOTE=Samina Malik;362792]Come on,its not necessary to use this degree outside the home only,At home,one can have so many opportunities to use that degree.[/QUOTE]

[B]Then one should not waste hard earned money of parents on higher education.Graduation can suffice and serve this purpose well.
[/B]

Samina Malik Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:27 PM

[QUOTE=Invincible;362796][B]Then one should not waste hard earned money of parents on higher education.Graduation can suffice and serve this purpose well.
[/B][/QUOTE]
Do you really think that higher education works for jobs only??????

I totally disagree,Girls should not let themselves suffer for no reason!
Getting higher education can be a passion too,It means every girl who go for higher education want a job...oh not at all

mjkhan Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:28 PM

[QUOTE=Invincible;362796][B]Then one should not waste hard earned money of parents on higher education.Graduation can suffice and serve this purpose well.
[/B][/QUOTE]

let me be a bit more precise.if women is to be kept inside the four walls then they should not enter the professional studies i.e in the field of medical,engineering,accountancy etc.

in china(as a lot are inspired by her these days) half the sky is held up by women.restricting women to home means getting yourself deprived of a big number of intelligent workforce which could otherwise take part in the development of country.

Samina Malik Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:31 PM

[QUOTE=mjkhan;362801]let me be a bit more precise.if women is to be kept inside the four walls then they should not enter the professional studies i.e in the field of medical,engineering,accountancy etc.

in china(as a lot are inspired by her these days) half the sky is held up by women.restricting women to home means getting yourself deprived of a big number of intelligent workforce which could otherwise take part in the development of country.[/QUOTE]
Now i suppose you are taking discussion on the wrong track,I am not saying that women should confine themselves in four wall or anything like that!
What i am saying is...that they should not go for job when they don't need it. that's just a extra burden.

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:36 PM

I would like to second both of you. I have attempted for css twice. I am desperate for doing css and have a passion for it. It doesn't mean that I don't like to stay at home, but I really wants to contribute to my society, Although I am very strict and concerned about my moral and religious values, they are no doubt my top most priority but, I wants to incorporate my skills, knowledge and talent into the society, as women have an integral role in the nation building. Women should give the top most priority to her family and they should give good training to their generations, but she can do it along with the job as well.

Samina Malik Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:38 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362810]I would like to second both of you. I have attempted for css twice. I am desperate for doing css and have a passion for it. It doesn't mean that I don't like to stay at home, but I really wants to contribute to my society, Although I am very strict and concerned about my moral and religious values, they are no doubt my top most priority but, I wants to incorporate my skills, knowledge and talent into the society, as women have an integral role in the nation building. Women should give the top most priority to her family and they should give good training to their generations, but she can do it along with the job as well.[/QUOTE]
That's the point really:)

mjkhan Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:42 PM

the point,now a days,is not that a family needs financial support from a woman or not.the point is that this country is in need of an effective workforce.lets us suppose 20% of our population is educated in real terms and out of this 20% the representation of women is 5%.now in this situation we are already short of doctors,engineers etc required to achieve the desired level of progress.if we take out the 5% women from the working force the situation will get more worse.

it is a national duty for women to work and play their role for the betterment of this country.

when situation will get stable to phir beshak araam sa ghar baith jain sari larkian.

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 03:58 PM

@Samina

Thats something more than "just a burden for women"

@mano
There is nothing bad but things must be prioritized and my point is that for a women 1st and top most priority should be home and family etc. Then comes other things like job and passion and national responsibility and so on. So, if everything goes fine at home, family dont hav problem, and she can take care of moral values then there is no harm in working. Hope i made my point clear.

@MJ

Use of degree is not necessarily in some profession or job. Degree or higher education can be used in many effective ways. I dont agree that girls shouldnt be doctors or scientists etc. Education gives no harm at any stage of life. It helps. A female doctor can practice in her locality or for some limited time in big hospital keeping in view her purpose as serving nation, similarly she can be helpful for family, kids etc, a good educated women makes future generations good and educated. So, education should be acquired and things should be managed as per requirement as i mentioned above with priorities :)

All what I said is my personal opinion, and may be wrong :)

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:00 PM

[QUOTE=usmanamjad87;362817]@Samina

Thats something more than "just a burden for women"

@mano
There is nothing bad but things must be prioritized and my point is that for a women 1st and top most priority should be home and family etc. Then comes other things like job and passion and national responsibility and so on. So, if everything goes fine at home, family dont hav problem, and she can take care of moral values then there is no harm in working. Hope i made my point clear.

@MJ

Use of degree is not necessarily in some profession or job. Degree or higher education can be used in many effective ways. I dont agree that girls shouldnt be doctors or scientists etc. Education gives no harm at any stage of life. It helps. A female doctor can practice in her locality or for some limited time in big hospital keeping in view her purpose as serving nation, similarly she can be helpful for family, kids etc, a good educated women makes future generations good and educated. So, education should be acquired and things should be managed as per requirement as i mentioned above with priorities :)

All what I said is my personal opinion, and may be wrong :)[/QUOTE]

I would suggest that please read my last post, you will come to know that it is almost the same discussion as you are also mentioning.

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:07 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362818]I would suggest that please read my last post, you will come to know that it is almost the same discussion as you are also mentioning.[/QUOTE]

Yes I have read that too. You talked about contribution to the society there, and I think that contribution to society is not limited just to civil services or some other profession. One can contribute to society at micro level like from one's home or locality, like spreading awareness among people around you, like making people educated and so on. MEans if a person oath to serve, then there are no lack of opportunities and no responsibility or burden can stop him.

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:10 PM

[QUOTE=usmanamjad87;362820]Yes I have read that too. You talked about contribution to the society there, and I think that contribution to society is not limited just to civil services or some other profession. One can contribute to society at micro level like from one's home or locality, like spreading awareness among people around you, like making people educated and so on. MEans if a person oath to serve, then there are no lack of opportunities and no responsibility or burden can stop him.[/QUOTE]
Yes I agree, but it was just an example and I am trying to tell that the reason behind my passion is not to break the norms of the society or to do something for the sake of job only.....

kjay Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:20 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362791]one thing more I would like to mention is that a women can do anything by remaining within the limits and doing a job for any reason is itself not a bad thing. The purpose of initiating this thread is just to analyze the mentality and thoughts of both males and females...[/QUOTE]

thanks for the appreciation for girls..plus one thing u said that women can do anything within limits, i dont understand one thing whymen always think that they are above all limitations???i have noticed that girls are mature enough to know and obseve their limits and they do, but again and again thye haveto realise men that wht is their limits..any ways nice effort..and yeah i think girls should do every possible thing they can and they should, dont pay heed to jealous men :mad: do whatever u want:clap

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:27 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362822]Yes I agree, but it was just an example and I am trying to tell that the reason behind my passion is not to break the norms of the society or to do something for the sake of job only.....[/QUOTE]

Exactly :) Thanx for understanding my point.

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:27 PM

Thanx a lot for your encouraging remarks, and I would like to give the answer to your question as well. No one in this world, either a man or a woman is totally free. Men do have some limitations and they should equally understand these restrictions, but may be due to some social factors, they don't bother about their ''limitations''. I think they should be more conscious about these issues, as they play a major role in the family and ultimately in the society. I would like to appreciate you that being a male, you have highlighted this matter.

[QUOTE=usmanamjad87;362830]Exactly :) Thanx for understanding my point.[/QUOTE]
welcome. Now, I am happy that a healthy discussion has been started on this significant matter.

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:41 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362832]Thanx a lot for your encouraging remarks, and I would like to give the answer to your question as well. No one in this world, either a man or a woman is totally free. Men do have some limitations and they should equally understand these restrictions, but may be due to some social factors, they don't bother about their ''limitations''. I think they should be more conscious about these issues, as they play a major role in the family and ultimately in the society. I would like to appreciate you that being a male, you have highlighted this matter.[/QUOTE]


Yes exactly men have major contribution and they should take care of limitations/moral values etc. and many men do so too. But few sick minds( i mean girls) who talk about gender discrimination raise this point for securing themselves and present this argument that if men are not doing good then women should also not, but I think everyone is responsible for his/her personal character and personal behavior should be independent of what others do.

[QUOTE=mano g;362835]welcome. Now, I am happy that a healthy discussion has been started on this significant matter.[/QUOTE]

Yes mano healthy discussion takes place when people talk with arguments looking forward positively, means they just dont speak in air or give insulting remarks or so, and accept what others say if acceptable.
Discussion is ruined by comments like the one given by kjay above. Such points take to discrmination and I personally avoid replying such things.

mano g Wednesday, October 12, 2011 04:52 PM

[QUOTE=usmanamjad87;362839]Yes exactly men have major contribution and they should take care of limitations/moral values etc. and many men do so too. But few sick minds( i mean girls) who talk about gender discrimination raise this point for securing themselves and present this argument that if men are not doing good then women should also not, but I think everyone is responsible for his/her personal character and personal behavior should be independent of what others do.



Yes mano healthy discussion takes place when people talk with arguments looking forward positively, means they just dont speak in air or give insulting remarks or so, and accept what others say if acceptable.
Discussion is ruined by comments like the one given by kjay above. Such points take to discrmination and I personally avoid replying such things.[/QUOTE]

please don't take any of the comment personal. it's a general discussion and this thread is not about gender discrimination at all. we should respect everyone's views. Take it easy:)

amna rafiq Wednesday, October 12, 2011 05:48 PM

[QUOTE=Invincible;362796][B]Then one should not waste hard earned money of parents on higher education.Graduation can suffice and serve this purpose well.
[/B][/QUOTE]

I strongly agree,after geting Higher Education girls should participate actively for the development of society rather siting back at home...There are many respectable jobs for them...otherwise it ll b useless n yes the wastage of money and time aswel....In that case grduation is enough 2 perform household duties in a better way....

Farrah Zafar Wednesday, October 12, 2011 08:41 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362621]This is a beautiful article:

[B][I]The woman in your life...very well expressed...[/I][/B]
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.



Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

[B][I]But not many guys understand this.......
Please appreciate "HER"[/I][/B]
I hope you will do....[/QUOTE]

Very well depiction.Ah !

@all I'm in favour of job either one needs it or not ! After taking exam of C.S.S,I spent almost 6 months at home and it was worst feeling to sit idle when I had enough talent to use but at right place.These days I'm doing internship and I'm very satisfied that I'm spending life with a purpose;I share knowledge and I learn everyday and most of all I have social circle to communicate.
Yes I'm not in favour of job after marriage if your spouse doesn't allow you or your children get neglect .But if there isn't either of reasons,one should use her talents and energy at a platform which may give her satisfaction but may not overwhelm and over burden her domestic life.

Proud to be a lady who can equally contribute for her society as a man does !

lizaaudacious Wednesday, October 12, 2011 09:35 PM

but why should we take pain?if we dont need it,then we should not take this load of work.men are supposed to do the task ,they are supposed to be the bread earners ,so let them be...simple....its their social and religious obligation,so stay calm and enjoy life.:bow

Cute Badshah Wednesday, October 12, 2011 10:38 PM

Appreciated
 
[QUOTE=mano g;362621]This is a beautiful article:

[B][I]The woman in your life...very well expressed...[/I][/B]
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.



Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

[B][I]But not many guys understand this.......
Please appreciate "HER"[/I][/B]
I hope you will do....[/QUOTE]

[COLOR="Navy"]Impressive.
Leaving the job matter apart, the mentioned sacrifices is the fate of almost every girl in our society.[/COLOR]

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 10:48 PM

[QUOTE=lizaaudacious;362962]but why should we take pain?if we dont need it,then we should not take this load of work.men are supposed to do the task ,they are supposed to be the bread earners ,so let them be...simple....its their social and religious obligation,so stay calm and enjoy life.:bow[/QUOTE]

Yes exactly men should do what they are supposed to do. Women have their own religious and social obligations, and they are more important so they should take care of them and enjoy them too :)

lizaaudacious Wednesday, October 12, 2011 11:03 PM

yeah...its not a big deal for a girl ...a girl really feels happy to perform all that very SOCIAL and RELIGIOUS responsibilities..:clap:clap

usmanamjad87 Wednesday, October 12, 2011 11:18 PM

[QUOTE=lizaaudacious;362995]yeah...its not a big deal for a girl ...a girl really feels happy to perform all that very SOCIAL and RELIGIOUS responsibilities..:clap:clap[/QUOTE]

Unfortunately majority are not like this now. (I think)

samreenhassan Thursday, October 13, 2011 12:02 AM

[QUOTE=Samina Malik;362792]Come on,its not necessary to use this degree outside the home only,At home,one can have so many opportunities to use that degree.[/QUOTE]
for example?
either u do job while staying at home, online stuff etc , or out door , it demand equal time .

orient Thursday, October 13, 2011 08:49 AM

Dear Mano g! May be I coudn't put-forth my point clearly. Role of a woman is appreciable. And I always talk of equality and equity. More, A Woman can be an entrepreneur remaining at home. She can do anything a man can do.
Last, Equality means same opportunities, same treatment and same societal behavior for both genders...... but mind one thing, there's a difference b/w being equal and identical.....:clap

*********
I would love to discuss if anyone likes to share ideas on entrepreneurship and women self dependence. :happy::dd

[QUOTE=samreenhassan;363021]for example?
either u do job while staying at home, online stuff etc , or out door , it demand equal time .[/QUOTE]

External environment matters more than time consumption.... Ms. Samina is quite justified in her point.... I think :snor

mehwish islam Thursday, October 13, 2011 09:49 AM

very well said mano but boys never understand n appreciate their wives in fact they criticized them throughout the life.

mano g Thursday, October 13, 2011 10:23 AM

[QUOTE=orient;363063]Dear Mano g! May be I coudn't put-forth my point clearly. Role of a woman is appreciable. And I always talk of equality and equity. More, A Woman can be an entrepreneur remaining at home. She can do anything a man can do.
Last, Equality means same opportunities, same treatment and same societal behavior for both genders...... but mind one thing, there's a difference b/w being equal and identical.....:clap]

Thank you for understanding the actual meaning and purpose of this post. It's all about appreciation and nothing else at all. I think women have been providing a lot of entrepreneurship facilities even while sitting at home. Our rural women make beautiful handicrafts, embroidered clothes and many other stuff, but unfortunately they don't get the actual price of these material. ''Saith system'' is dominating every industry and those women are not given required credit for their hardwork and precious skills.

mano g Thursday, October 13, 2011 10:30 AM

[QUOTE=mehwish islam;363079]very well said mano but boys never understand n appreciate their wives in fact they criticized them throughout the life.[/QUOTE]
Thank you Mehwish, you are right, only a few educated men give credit to their wives for their every kind of effort, either at home or at work. I think for a healthy marital, social and family life, it's very important to respect each other, AND it is important for women as well to realize the importance of men.

mano g Thursday, October 13, 2011 10:33 AM

[QUOTE=Farrah Zafar;362931]Very well depiction.Ah !

@all I'm in favour of job either one needs it or not ! After taking exam of C.S.S,I spent almost 6 months at home and it was worst feeling to sit idle when I had enough talent to use but at right place.These days I'm doing internship and I'm very satisfied that I'm spending life with a purpose;I share knowledge and I learn everyday and most of all I have social circle to communicate.
Yes I'm not in favour of job after marriage if your spouse doesn't allow you or your children get neglect .But if there isn't either of reasons,one should use her talents and energy at a platform which may give her satisfaction but may not overwhelm and over burden her domestic life.

Proud to be a lady who can equally contribute for her society as a man does ![/QUOTE]

Farah,same was the case with me, AND an empty mind is the devil's workshop:angle, either it's the mind of a girl or a boy:D

Farrah Zafar Thursday, October 13, 2011 06:19 PM

[QUOTE=lizaaudacious;362962]but why should we take pain?if we dont need it,then we should not take this load of work.men are supposed to do the task ,they are supposed to be the bread earners ,so let them be...simple....its their social and religious obligation,so stay calm and enjoy life.:bow[/QUOTE]

I don't consider it pain when it is done by choice and it doesn't collide with domestic responsibilities .It's for one's inner satisfaction that she is using her talents and grooming her personality by social interaction.

Men are bread earners so they should do it obviously but a woman should not be sticked to kitchen only when she has energy and brain to utilize for society.

Life is enjoyed,when one leads it with her own choice :)

SADIA SHAFIQ Thursday, October 13, 2011 06:35 PM

[QUOTE=mano g;362621]This is a beautiful article:

[B][I]The woman in your life...very well expressed...[/I][/B]
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.



Here is a girl, who is as much [COLOR=darkolivegreen][B]educated as[/B][/COLOR] you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has [U][B]dreams and aspirations[/B][/U] just as
you have because she is as human as you are;

One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your
Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and [B]competing in a system[/B]
that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as
much as you do [B]for 20-25 years of her life;[/B]

One, who has bravely agreed[B] to leave behind all[/B] that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name

One, who is somehow expected to be a [B]master-chef from day #1[/B], while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen

One, who is [B]expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning[/B] and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as
to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;

One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and [B]yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities[/B];

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important,
relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some
and trust her;

One, who [B]just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house[/B] - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

[B][I]But not many guys understand this.......[/I][/B]
[I][B]Please appreciate "HER"[/B][/I]
I hope you will do....[/QUOTE]


[B][COLOR=darkgreen]This is a story of married life .if women is so special then here and every where she is going to complain ....[/COLOR][/B]

[B][COLOR=#006400]Infact women consider herself so special and lement the negligence of her sposue .tHE ABOVE [OST IS THE SCHEDULE OF WOMEN ROUTINE but i found no speciality in it [/COLOR][/B]

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[B][COLOR=#006400]I wonder you have en-countered only [/COLOR][/B][B][COLOR=darkgreen]the amrried life and their future... so the specilaity of women rotate around these circles..[/COLOR][/B]

[B][COLOR=#006400]I have seen men ,in single-parent family acting as father as well as mother too.one should count specilaty of men here..[/COLOR][/B]

[B][COLOR=#006400]women love in life and sincerity can`t be denied and that is the specilaity of women . I want to focus on men speciality in order to enlightened the role of women .this would widenned the scope of discussion.[/COLOR][/B]

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[B][COLOR=#006400]"the message today in mobile circulated women are wi-fi where men are blue tooth "[/COLOR][/B]


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