Aqlmand k liay eshara h kafi hy aur eshara yh hy k
aik hadees shreeef ka mafhoom hy k jis ny apnay raz ko raz rkka us nay manzil pa li

Husband has no right over wife's past whatsoever.

i am not a scholar or very learned person but i personally feel that it is wise to conceal such things for the better specially when you have children.

Remembers,Shirk k baad,Allah k nazdeeq "talaq" ya separation of husband and wife sab se napasandida cheez hai.So insan ko apni capacity main rehtay huway mil baith kr hal nikalana chahiye aur aysi sitautions ko avoid kerna chaiye jis se un k taluq main kharabi paida honay ka khadsha ho.

Allah tala insan per us ki bisaat se ziyada bojh nahi daltay.Islam aik practical aur mukamal deen hai.Is per chal ker koi bhtak he nahi sakta.
Hum main boht si bashri kamzaoriyan hain.Jo k naik se naik insaan main bi zahir ho jati hain kisi na kisi mor per.Sirf paighamber masoom hotay hain.

Isi kamzori ko mad-e-nazar rakhtay howay Allah ka hukum hai k raaz ko faash na kia jaye jab tak ke koi boht bari kabahat na ho.Allah tala to maaf ker detay hain lekin insaan k dil main khalish rehti hai,woh kabhi bhul nahi sakta aur na he maaf kerta hai..

agar kisi insaan main koi aiab hai to ussay shaadi se pehlay zahir kerna chahiye jaisay k koi physical ya mental abnormality ya koi pehlay se married hai etc etc ...iss ko chupana skhat gunah hai.
Lekin agar kisi ka kisi k saath affair tha past main to yeh boht buri baat to hai per iss ko aib consider nhi kiya ja sakta specially jab us se koi kharabi paida na hui ho ya aysa koi khatara ho future main.Khass tor per jab woh ALLAH se maafi maang le.

Hum sab gunah kertay hain aur koi aik mard ya aurat aysa nahi k woh gunaah se pak ho.to humain yeh haq hasil nahi k kisi k gunaah ko kuraid kr us ko sharminda kiya jaye.
aur agar husband ya wife ko shaadi k baad iss type ki baat maloom ho to pehlay aram se baith kr doosray ka nuqta nazar jan'nay ki koshish karain.
ho sakta hai woh sachay dil se maafi mang chuka ho.us k past k liye,future ko barbaad kerna ki zaroorat nahi.haan,agar shaadi k baad bhi woh buraiyan zahir hoon to separation he hal hai.

jab koi insaan sachay dil se maafi mang leta hai yo woh pure ho jata hai.is liye agar koi aurat ya mard sirf aap ko kho denay k dar se aysa jhoot bolay jis ka future main koi khaas effect na perta ho,to i think it is permissible.Jiasa k yahan mufti sahab ne bhi bataya hai k apnay relation ko bachanay k liye jhoot bhi bolna peray to gunaah nahi(in extreme conditions).

Har insaan ki fitri khuwahish hoti hai k us ki wife ya husband k liye woh sab se pehlay aur mehboob ho to agar zojain mutual understanding se aik doosray k saath apna past share kerna chahain to koi burai nahi but us k baad baat wahin kahtam ho jani chaiye na k zindagi bhar usi lakeer ko peet'tay rahain.aur yaad rakhain...
khamoshi main he hikmat hai.

aap agar logon k past ki investigation kernay start ho jayen gay ya boht perfect insaan dhoondhnay ki justaju karain ge to aysa namumkin hai.
isi liye apnay ander ki buraiyon ko dekhtay huway doosray k gunahoon ko maaf ker dena afzal amal hai.

Regards.

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Unfortunately I second Farrah on this part. When She is not inquiring about the past why would he is interested? But sometimes It happens for good as husband wants to know completely about his spouse in order to be sure for any future misunderstanding/question raised by third party, you never know past can appear in front of us any time during our smooth life.

I'd prefer asking her at some appropriate time regarding her past and will share mine too to take her in complete confidence, situation vary with people as everyone has different psyche and understanding of the subject matter.


Regards,

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agar aik Car kay 2 wheels cycle kay ho aur 2 wheels car kay apnay lage huwe ho TO KYA CAR CHAL PAYEGI??? aur agar CHAL payegi to KITNE ARSAY or DISTANCE TAK?

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Insaan ki sab say Barhi TAQAT Uski Sab se Barhi KAMZORI Hoti hai.

my personal opinion is that she does`t say anything about her past.

LOL.car ka to mujhe pata nahi.na main auto mechanic hoon.magar insan sub he ghalati krte hain.biwi ha hoor nahi.

i disagree with last island's stance, kindly go thru Surah Al Nisa verse 25 Irfan-ul-Quran: - an-Nis whole for better guidance if you have time, they are crystal clear.if u think its not in you to forgive, if necessarily not forget, her past then dont tie the knot and ruin two lives in suspicion.

eik baat manay note ki hai k koi bhi aisi harkaton ko condemn nai karaha balkay excuses day rahay hain, jab k yeh buhat bara gunah hay as far as i know...

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"kam bolna hikmat, kam khana sihat aur kam sona ibadat hai"

Excuse me air u sound confused.zruri hai k biwi ka past kuch kharab ho?apka sawal yeh tha husband k pas right ha janna uska past ya nahi.ap to yun baat kr rhe hain jaise pata nahi konsa gunah ho.ya Allah maaf kray har orat zina kr chuki hoti hai shadi se pahle.ap apni mardana anaa ko le k orton ko koi shaitan ki chaili show krana chah rhe hain.show some respect.apki maan bahn ki b shadi hui hai ya honi hai..ap apna chaharcter smbhalain.us ne KHuda ko apne amaal k jwab daine hain ap ne apne.itni he koi takleef hai to achi tarha chaan been kr le mard apni khub tassali kr le.orat apki baandi nahi.