A wall of relationship which is built upon bricks of illusions and doubts, will soon fall.

If he thinks that he can't forgive her then he should leave her rather teasing and making her life disgusting.But 'Talaq' isn't liked even by Allah so it's better to make heart bigger if the wife is loyal to him.

That's what I meant MBA.Man may know about the things which she wants to share.He should make her feel secure so that she may not hesitate to discuss her past with him.

Hey Do you know what were you discussing ? You asked "what should one do in ABC case" ,You didn't ask for our opinion about adultery or prohibited acts jo ham logon pe laanten bhejna shuru ker dain.SAB excuses is lye de rahay hain kiun k ham sab ab baray ho chukay hain.Practical and realistic javab denay ki koshish ker rahay hain.Khud ko dunya ka aakhri naik insaan samjhtay hue doosron ko mulamat nae ker rahay.
Aur dunya ka koi b insaan gunaah ki tareefen nae kerta,sab gunah ko gunah e smjhtay hain.
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After reading all posts,I would like to say,

1)One should ask about one's wife's past BEFORE marriage.

2)If he wants to inquire AFTER marriage then he should ask it just for sake of trust building not to weaken their relationship.

Here comes some more questions ,

Do you think a girl will like to reveal her affairs?(in case of before marriage)

Ofcourse she will not.You know why ? Because she will be rejected right away.Even if she tells,she has also right to ask about man's.okay let's assume,man tells everything before marriage.Can girl ask her parents to reject the guy if she doesn't like to marry a man with 100 affairs ? Will her parents consider her point of view ? OFCOURSE NOT.A man with perfect job,perfect personality and with perfect family WILL NOT be rejected just on the basis of his past affairs.(I'm talking about average)Then what kind of inquiry it is ?It works only in case of men not for women
Is this society only for men ? for their choice?for their standards?

Let leave girl's will aside, A rejects her after coming to know about her past,then B comes,investigates about her past,she tells truth,he also rejects her.And it will keep on.Do you think Pakistani society can tolerate such system ? ? ?Do our men have such bigger hearts that even after knowing some irritating stories,they will accept the girl ? a big LOL


Seriously I laugh at people when I come to know that "falaan" and "Falaan" asked his wife "Had you any affair in past" and she said innocently,"Noooo way"

Simply Allah se dua mangen k wo ap ko naik shareek e hayat de.aur is ayat pe yaqeen rakhen,

"Naik aurton k lye naik mard,badd aurton k lye badd mard"

Inquiries kertay rahay tou kanwaray e reh jao gy

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Love is my Shield,Truth is my Sword,Brain is my Crown,Smile is my Treasure and I'm a Queen;
Quitters never win and Winners never quit..!!!

Many of faults you see in others, dear reader; are you own nature reflected in them? RUMI

TRUTH must be the base of every relation thats what i strongly believe. Because JHOOT kitna bhi metha ho uska asar bht kARRWA hota h. And thanx for sharing your personal experience I pray you stayy blessed.

Yeh baat aap ny bikul sach kahi k inquaries karty rahy to kunwary hi reh jayo gay.

Main samjhta hoon k sach bolny main Insaan ko kabhi long term pay nuqsaan nahi ho sakta aor jhoot bolnay main short term main faidah hay lekin long term main nuqsaan hi nuqsaan. To phir ghaty ka soda kiyoun karna.

Doosri baat aaj kal nojwanon ko chahye k woh limits cross na karain. Theek hay friendship ki hadd tak lekin uss say aagy nahi barhain. Especially larkiyoun ko. QK mard sab kuch bardashat kar sakta hay magar (Ghairat ka maamla) apni wife k baray main kisi aor banday kay mon say ghalat baat sunana gawarah nahi kar sakta.

Agar koi kar sakta hay to phir woh buhat hi koi oper ki cheez hay. Mujh jesa insaan iss qabil nahi.

Aor mard ko Islam main char shadian karny ki ijazat hay. Lkein aorat ussi soorat doosri shadi kar sakti hay k pehly shohar ussay talaq day ya woh khulla ly.

Aor larki Q sach nahi bata sakti ? Meri story ko side pay rakh k sochain k aik larki k kuch affairs thay shadi say pehly. Woh larka ussay Shadi k baad blackmail karta hay to aisi soorat main bhi larki ko ya to batana pary ga apny shohar ko ya phir woh blackmail ho kar uss banday ki demands ko poora kary gi jo k apny shohar k sath dhoka hoga. Isliye main behtar samjhta hoon k aisi batain discuss kar leni chahye acha hay agar shadi say pehly ho jayein. Ya shadi ki raat bhi agar shohar poochta hay to usay bataday k friendship thi phir chahy friendship say aagay kuch tha jis pay us nay Allah say maafi mang li thi to yeh Allah aor us k darmyan hay.

No one is perfect or free of sins.

He who asks, he shows his doubts.

When a person starts loving a girl. Does he ask her about her past?

All Prophets, Messengers, Mystics, Sufi, pious people. They had not asked this question to their wives.

You know?

BiBi Khadeja R.A was a widow, even thn Prophet Mohammad PBUH had accepted her proposal.

Muslim Man can marry four if he can do justice and give equal rights.

I again say.

If Prophet Mohammad hadn't asked his wives about their pasts.
Then one shouldn't ask.

You have to follow Prophet Mohammad being Muslim. If you don't follow, then, you can examine your fate.

husband ko tikka buti karne waali aurat ko dekhne ke baad mujhe to apni security kee fikar pari hai shaadi se pehle hee

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The precondition for existence of a higher humanity is not the state, but the nation possessing the necessary ability.

Better to marry the one whom u know well, Ajnabi se na kare shadi naaaaa........

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Mujhe Manzil Ki Talab Hai Na Hi Nakami Ka Dar
Muhjhe Safar Me Acha KHasa Lutf Aata Hai......(hamid)

We should not mix the things by using the name of Islam. The example of prophet you are giving, does not match here. Prophets were innocent. They did not fall in love before marriage. The era has completely changed now. If you are pretending yourself as true follower then dont say that when a person does not ask before falling in love then he should also not ask after getting married.

If you are true follower then dont speak with girls and dont fall in love before marriage as it is prohibited in Islam. But you cant do this because people like you have double standard. They dont do what they say and they dont say what they do.

And you do not know the intention of a person who is asking from her wife. And as per Hadith, actions depend upon intentions. If your intentions are right then you can ask her.

I have clearly mentioned my intentions that a person should ask in order to avoid any problem in future. Moreover, a person should ask before marriage because if she is in love with someone else and want to marry with him but her parents do not want her to do so. Then, you can help her by rejecting that proposal. Because if she loves someone else but she is constraint to marry with you then she will not live a happy life with you. Here is the example of a person read it carefully:

Islam Question and Answer -


Dont behave like illetrate Molvis read carefully about my intentions which I have explained very well. I had also mentioned in my earlier comments that I certainly do not have rights and she is also free to tell me something or not.

Thanks.

You have talked good. I am married. I won't ask any girl

Everyone is right according to the level of mind.

Stay blessed