Hi
Here I want to share something that is disturbing me. May be it will seem some members awkward but I really want to have assistance of some seniors in this regard.
Issue is that I really do not want to send my sister her school because I am afraid someone will misuse her. I do not trust her teachers and her friends. On one hand I am speaker of women education, I am liberal not conservative and on other hand I am hesitant to send my sister school due to increasing discussion of love stories and “dates” in school and so on. I do not know what should I do ? I want to raise her confident and educated but disturbed due to schools’ worsening environment .
Please suggest me what should I do ?
Should I let her to go school or should I teach her at home?

Yes Dear Im Agree With Your Opinions But you should send your sister to those Schools where Environment is about full of study. Mature teachers, staff, and student belongs to Well respectable families. Because a student growing is depend on his family. we learn from our family. our parents are our real teacher. if a student has bad attitude and behavior then its the fault of his parents. Don't think Negatively

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Home schooling is really bad for social skills. Schools exist for reasons and getting a good score in exams is the least important of reasons. In Lahore there are hardly a few co-ed schools so you don't have to get worried about 'dates'; bunking school is also very difficult as you might know: who let the kids out from school?

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You can send our sister to any good Girls school .. And talk to your parents, especially your mother, to impart a sense of responsibility, self-respect and morality in the sister's mind .. Mothers can communicate better with girls on such issues .. Your apprehensions are true and the society has misused the freedom given to girls lately .. But that is no reason to stop sending them to schools and push them back to the middle age era .. Rather raise them in a way to understand their womanly role and responsibilities and to make them appreciate that they carry with them your family's image and respect .. Similarly, show that to her with your own attitude towards girls too .. Mostly girls go astray when they see different and relaxed rules for boys than themselves .. Hope you get the point ..

Regards ..

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Yes dear I agree with your point.
I am serving now in education department and before this I served in NADRA department.
There I understand the ups and downs of society.
I have one sister but trend of my family is that the maximum education for girls is primary or middle.
But I went against my family my sister doing BS Physics but in women university multan.
To protection from this that you described is by only one thing you should encourage your sister.
And also tell her the reality of fake society.
Islamic education also play important role in this regard.

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Thank you all for considering my painful issue.
@ Sincer khan @ Buddha @ Stunner @ Yousaf shah
When there comes question of parents I am again helpless as I am only guardian of her secondly, what she got from my behaviour , attitude or character is that I am completely a non-cooperative, isolate and authoritarian person who is much busy in sorting how she can well prepare for CSS and how can she change fate of her family after excelling CSS. ( how can I balance such issues ?)
She was studying in a school that was co-ed now she will go in a girls school.
Lastly, yes I will send her school . I will guide her about right and wrong and will hope that she would ''save'' herself.
For me Its not an easy task to raise a girl in this society of wolves . (how coward I am) .

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Wise decision brother I am also agree with others members send him to any good girl school because at school level boys and girls both are not mature. So co-education at school and college level is now a days going towards worst conditions.Encourage your sister give her confidence try to communicate her reality of life and Islamic ethics.INSHALLAH ALLAH Almighty will better every thing.

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Trusting teachers and friends is not a real deal here , you would have to trust your sister -at first ,then no worries . After that , there seems to be no reason for not sending her to a school or college .

No doubt , girls school is a better option .

Be confident , if one's intentions are good then no one can harm him/her . Leave the rest of your worries to Allah Almighty .

Best Of Luck (Y)

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I agree with Muhammad Ali here. You need to trust your sister first. If her values are strong, she wouldn't indulge in anything wrong no matter what kinds of people she come acrosses in life. So her initial years of grooming are very important. Instead of being some authoritarian figure, be her guardian, supporter and a friend. Develop such a relation that she is able to share everything with you. In this way, you can always guide her along the way. Plus I think you should read a book on how to raise a child/ teenager. Also, I am sure she would have the support of some khala/ phuppo so you need not to worry.

Now having said this, your sister should definitely attend a school so that she can explore her own talents and develop her personality in a better/ healthier way. That would certainly be a wise decision.

P.s: It's good to know that you are a liberal and support women's education.
Btw, did you know Hazrat Ayesha(R.A) had more knowledge( not only in religion but also in medicine and politics) than any of the other companions of the Holy Prophet(saw)?!

Have a good day!

For the reason you stated above I did not send my brother to school either. Its a dangerous world out there. He could get used. I do not trust the teachers, his friends or the girls. (sarcasm intended)