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Psychological Reason Behind Students' failure in CSS
As per my earlier posts, I won't share anything bookish or heard from the horse's mouth but my own experience
CSS aspirants, almost 3 month prior to to exams, feel nervous and start speculating that they won't be able to do it this time around. The truth is only knowm to the aspirant himelf/herself. But in order to armour himself against others' expectations, he looks for excuses and hurdles intentionally or unintentionally to prove to others that his preparation has been hampered by many obstacles. The aspirant, in this respect, looks for minor non-issues to get himeslf involved in so that an excuse can be sought. He magnifies even the slightet of problems and keeps it as an armour for himself in case of failure. Job, family, lack of guidance, facilities or even any affair ( sorry to point it out ) are beautifully attired excuses. One needs to pay full attention to one's preparation with Commitment, Concentration and Consistency. One, at least, must not lie to oneself and should have clear introspection as to what wrong and irrelevant he has been doing. Plz, put aside the non-issues and stop using them as an armour and excuses for your failure.Don't lose the battle before even it is fought. CSS is the name of battle of nerves. Regards, Ainuddin KIbzai. |
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Ainuddin Kibzai (Thursday, December 08, 2011) |
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Commitment, concentration, consistency all I followed but than too it didnt worked. As per my experience, till u dont have a proper guidance all ur hardwork n efforts all will be awarded zero. This examination is totaly diferent from rest of all exams. Here i believe the examiners only have a specified criteria for checking n if it wont match the examiners thoughts ull fail. So i believe it is just luck..
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brother Ainuddin Your understanding regarding css demands a great deal of appreciation, I do utterly agree with you in this sense. I think this is nothing but your own experience which you have got from your failure in first attempt, and I hope that this experience is ample for you in order to pull off in the coming attempt.
It is included in man's nature that he always tries to remain himself in protective shield of excuses. Many people I have seen claiming that they are not responsible for their fate, rather these were circumstances which did not do justice with them. Brave is one who confess that it is he who is responsible for the outcome of his work. This confession, in addition to satisfaction, also provides them with a more vigilant behavior to rule out the factors that may result failure, again. |
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Ainuddin Kibzai (Saturday, December 10, 2011) |
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I think you're talking about post-failure mindset. After a lot of hardwork, and putting up with social pressure to 'move on with life', it is normal to try to rationalize failure with excuses like 'I didn't have anyone to guide me' etc.
We humans have this tendency to rationalize things - it helps cope better with life's slumps. |
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Yes, in both cases we try to device the excuses but more often we do it after our failure that is why I laid much stress on post-failure circumstances.
I wanted to make it just clear that in neither case we should do this; because excuses prior to attempt something weakens our intentions, and after failure it makes us to turn a blind from our own faults.. by the way, are you masters in chemistry? chemguy? |
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Ainuddin Kibzai (Saturday, December 10, 2011) |
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@Shakeel Ghori
No. Chemical engineer. |
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Well,you are right boys. It happens to most of the candidates. But remember that those with such a mind set never get through the exams and are unable make a footprint of their own in any sphere of life.
It is a self-defeating mentality and the person befools no one but himself. As CSS is the game of nerves, i believe that the candidates must have an unflinching faith in Allah Almighty and belief in their own abilities. If Allah has put this thought into your heart then it would be Him who would show you the path of success. No one can reward you or harm you except Him. Try to avoid company of those with self-defeating mentality as they themselves can not do it so they try create demoralized feelings in others as well. If you get across such lossers, do not be influenced by their defeated mentality. It is hundred percent correct that CSS is the game of hardwork and proper guidence. Get proper guidence from reliable sources such as this forum but do not waste your precious time here. Before you visit this website you must know why you are visiting this website, 10-15 minutes daily is more then enough. Spend proper time with your books and on writing practice. Leave behind your ego, selfishness and greed. Become a humble servent of Allah, Offer namaz and follow the orders of Allah wholeheartedly, you will see miracles happening. Jazak Allah Peace
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I am a lecturer at Boys and Girls Colleges and I know that to be a good and sincere teacher, he has to let his student know as to what wrong he/she is doing. Keep in mind that exam is in fact the combination of Knowledge + Expressing that knowledge. You look to be hard working student having gained loads of knowledge but let me be straight here ( I think it might hurt you instantly but will surely help you in the long run ) by quoting that your replies give an impression that you are lagging behind in expression. You just need to work on that. And for better expression, you may well check my posts as well. Regards, Ainuddin Kibzai. Quote:
It is the mindset of the aspirant that paralyzes him prior to exams when he thinks he knows nothing and will fail badly. It is then that his mind keeps craving for excuses. It can be felt in the words of the aspirants just prior to exams when they confess that this attempt is just on trial basis to check as to where he actually stands. Quote:
Last edited by Princess Royal; Sunday, December 11, 2011 at 10:49 AM. |
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Thanx for you my dear for bringing such valuable information for us. Because, such sharing lead us to understand that in addition to study and diligent work, we obviously need a rational behavior which may encourage us to do our work in right direction even more vigorously.
I do agree with you that just having knowledge does not matter entirely, but what virtually makes a difference is to have an art of setting down that knowledge in words. |
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Ainuddin Kibzai (Saturday, December 10, 2011) |
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