This paragraph has been written by my female friend, i want to share it with u. I hope u would share ur views on it


Alaas! ! !Wat to say and wat not to. Sometimes the difficulties,obstacles and hurdles of life make me think tht why I have been to this world??? I would have been away from the harsh realities of today, where no one understands me. I don’t say tht I m cent percent right but atleast try to understand me. You might thimk who I m ??? I m a WOMEN.

Just have a glance over your surrounding, u will find a women being degraded, insulted,disgraced and tortured. But have u ever thought just to listen wat does she wants, wat are her needs and wat does she cries for???

Being a women I’ll tell u wat she wants.

A women wants true love n respect where she needs every one to respect her as she owes a great position according to both Islam and law. She needs the love of the love of her parents before marriage and the love of her life partner after getting married. She wants to get appreciated even for her very minimum achievements as she just needs the attention of others.

She needs security and protection just for the sake of proving her presence over the people who have, from decades considered a women just a toy of their hands. A women being treated as an entity which is odd one out. She needs the security as a mother for the benefit of her children and as a lady a sign of success for others get their ideal from.

A women needs independence, the very birth right, huh…from which she is being deprived, just for the fear in a men’s heart tht a women might not go ahead from a men which…. huh they have thought as their birth right. A women requires independence to prove her self tht she is not a single step behind a men. They can also stand shoulder to shoulder to a men, just to make their presence worthy on this earth.

Ahaaaaaan !!! loyalty and sincerity a eastern women’s dream. But here she gets emotional. She needs the loyalty of her partner, she needs his sincerity tht is just her due right. A women after sacrifices and sacrifices just need a husbands support and a shoulder where she can rely to forget worries of her life. She likes to forget the whole world after having the hand forward by a man with love.

Now after all this a women is never ever understood!!!.If she needs love then she is considered someone living in an idealistic world and away from reality. If then she needs security and protection then she is considered tht she don’t trust her partner, How come she???.If she needs independence then she is considered an independent bird to fly wherever she wants to Ahhhhhhh!!!. And if she needs loyalty and sincerity then she is considered the one living in a fantasy land where romance prevails.

Now you tell me tht any of tht all of a women’s desire are illegal or unjustified??? Make your heart a judge of the situation and conclude a penalty for a women if she is WRONG………………………………………………

AoA, the needs enumerated in above paragraphs is very right. However, interpretation makes the difference. One may interpret the contents in fore-mentioned lines as an obscure thing or the other may get very enlightened view. It depends upon the eyes of reader and mind of thinker either to eat the apple or to throw it or to devise laws of nature.....

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'Thee woh ik shakhs kay tasawar saay - abb woh ranayee khayal kahaan'

Dear Tabassum
So how do u interpret above mentioned paragraph-- ur view dear?

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Why does a girl always have to be dependent for love , respect and other stuff. Why aren't they bold enough to face what's comming. GUTSS is what they lack in . Be bold and brave and things would turn out your way !

they just don't say " My way or the Highway !"

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Actualy interpretation of emancipation not only depends upon the male members of society but also on the female members...... So far as my thinking is concerned, a 'good woman' certainly wants regards/love/affection of her closed relatives including her parents, brothers, husband and sons....

However, thinking of women certainly varies from person to person. What we get from teachings of Islam (QURAN And SUNNAH) man and woman are equal except for some matters man is given superiority as such some restrictions have been imposed on females, but moreorless restrictions have also been imposed on man to bring modesty and charecters amongst human beings irrespective of their gender. As such it doesnt mean that only man folk has some specific traits to rule or command. From the very advent of Islam we find woman in every field of life e.g. as businesswoman (Umhatul Momaneen Hazrat Khadija r.a.) nurse (Hazrat Fatima r.a.), good fighter (Khaula binte Azwar -sister of Zarrar ibne Azwar in army of Hazrat Khalid Bin Waleed r.a. and during Battle of Yarmouk many women fought bravely with swords/lances including Hind wife of Abu Sufyaan) etc. however, that thing was to be done in certain limits... Some of women clamouring for emancipation are certainly not in limits prescribed under the pristine injunctions of Islam......

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'Thee woh ik shakhs kay tasawar saay - abb woh ranayee khayal kahaan'

Aslam alikum
I want to know the views of our fourm's bold n brave girls than we can come to any conclusion.
Regards

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walikum salam
i just want to add that society should not rationalize women's feelings.Women r right on their needs.First of all, women tend to act on feelings much more than men do. Women are much more likely to let feelings and emotions determine their actions and moods.
They put more weight on what the FEEL than what they THINK........... Their feelings are the most important, putting rationality and logic on the back-burner.
This is often because she feels he doesn't understand her. We've all been in this situation where we think we're helping, but somehow we say the wrong thing and it does her no good. The key is that when she opens up to Men and tells her FEELINGS he mustn't rationalize!
Rationalizing a woman's feelings makes her feel that you don't understand her and you don't understand her feelings. It can also make her feel inferior, and bad for letting her emotions get out of control.
Just listen to what she says and sympathize and really pay attention to her feelings, and know they are feelings and have no rational basis and you can't get her to think her way out of them.

further i want to say ,women want to be LISTENED , to be respected, have their intuition understood and to participate in the decision making process surrounding their health care, family issues , personal discomforts etc etc.
for women i must adviced that people want actions rather than talking about ur feelings...........!
Women, test out your ability to accept some emotional discomfort without
thinking that "what comes up must come out." Men think you just want
pity and keep complaining about the same things over and aver.
guys and gals........... LEARN FROM EACH OTHER, COOPERATE.
Each of you have something to offer the other. So start bending a little! Everyone will be happier.

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cent per cent agreed !

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'Thee woh ik shakhs kay tasawar saay - abb woh ranayee khayal kahaan'

1. Woman’s desires are as legitimate as man’s.
2. Most of the times women are themselves responsible for their plight.
3. Socialization of women in a male chauvinist world makes them think unconsciously that they are somehow inferior to men.
4. Means of production being as they are in men’s control in a world that has been mainly agrarian for the last many thousands of years, men have been able to be the chief bread winners (because of their particular biological structure which gave them physical strength, a valuable commodity in an agrarian society), and thus remain in the dominant position.
5. With the world getting industrialized, the emphasis now is shifting from physical strength to intellectual prowess as a source of means of production. (Woman can be as much the bread winners as the men). This is the reason why a lot of feminist movements have arisen in recent times when women started participating in the economic activities.
6. The “inferiority complex” of women and the vice versa superiority complex of men, however, remains because of the millennia of men’s control over the means of production.
7. Women can become equal to men only when two conditions are fulfilled:

I. When they achieve the equal bargaining status with men as regards economic activity.
II. When social prejudices especially of women about their own inferiority finish completely.

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Are we human because we look at the stars, or do we look at the stars because we are human? Pointless really. Do the stars look back at us? Now that is a question!

a question.... what do the women occupying childen library in Isb feel?... prettyr relevant i guess?

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