The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk.

Joseph Joubert

(LET SEE IF THIS WORKS FOR ME)

Anger is a valid, healthy emotion.
Anger is an emotion that can help set limits and boundaries in relationships.
Anger is a tool to help identify needs and wants.
Anger is powerful and needs to be used with respect.
When you know how to respond to your anger positively, you can tap into an unlimited source of personal power. This personal power can in turn enable you to speak for yourself and to learn to manage the fear of shame or criticism.
Anger Alternatives can show you how to work towards your wants without rage, violence, aggression, or controlling behaviors.
Did you know that...?

• An anger problem is any behavior caused by anger that hurts you or someone else
• Anger problems affect men and women of all ages, and from all walks of life.
• Anger problems come in many forms.
• Some people become indecisive or inactive when they feel their own or another persons anger. (Passive)
• Some people act out anger feelings by attacking, or trying to control. (Aggressive)
• Some people use addictions to avoid their feelings. (Dependant-Addicted)
• Some people become introverted and depressed.(Depressive)
• Some people use their anger to manipulate or manage others. (Passive-Aggressive)
• All anger problems are a form of control.
• When anger is “reacted” to, the anger is in control.

At Anger Alternatives, you can learn the tools to...

• Control anger related behavior
• Separate anger feelings from anger behaviors
• Identify anger sources
• Learn anger signals
• Stop anger from being in control.
• Accept and respect yourself
• Develop emotional literacy
• Release old shame and guilt.
• Break old patterns that don't work

• Stop reactionary behaviors
• Determine available support
• Improve interpersonal communication skills.
• Improve relationships with family, friends, and fellow employees.
• Re-establish credibility
• Establish limits and boundaries
• Take appropriate risks

Step Back and Breathe
Count to ten before you say or do anything and be mindful of your breathing. If you still don’t feel calm, count to ten again…and breathe.
Ask yourself:

• What am I angry about?
• What is hurting me?
• What is going on that is not ok for me?
• Did this person intend to hurt me?

When possible, remove yourself from the source of the stress and anger
Go for a walk or exercise. Moderate physical activity can be a productive outlet for your emotions. Besides releasing pent-up energy, your general physical feeling will improve.
Avoid emotionally charged and strenuous workouts, they can feed into the anger.
Imagine a calm relaxing scene.

• Remember a time when you felt at peace.
• Close your eyes, and travel back there.
• Allow yourself to be there for a while and feel yourself release.

Empathize with the other person.

• Try to see the situation from his or her point of view.
• Remember that there is always more than one way to see anything.

Write in a journal. Keep track of your anger:

• What did “I” get angry about?
• What did “I” do or say in response?
• How did “I” feel, physically and emotionally?

By identifying your sources of anger, you can learn to anticipate and respond to anger situations.
Use “I” statements when talking about the problem or situation instead of criticizing or blaming the other person. “I” am upset that the kitchen didn’t get cleaned after dinner,” instead of “Why is the kitchen still a mess?”, or “You should have cleaned it!”
Stop Brooding or Stewing. “Mind talk” is a major anger signal and one of the most destructive things you can do to yourself.

• Rage starts when you lose control of your own thoughts or feelings.
• You can control what you say.
• Talk to the person you have anger with.
• Share your feelings with a close friend or family member.

anger..........hmmmmmmmmmmm....
anger...well what i think is that the way u can overcome ur anger is:

first of all do good to others but NEVER expect anything good from them...always be ready for the worst from others....and if the worse comes from them atleast u would be having the shield to guard urself, emotionally.

write, paint, cook, or do anything that is of interest to you.

play games in which u need to "hit", like tennis, badminton etc.everytime u hit the ball u lower the level of hormones in ur body thru physical exertion.

go to a any place where u can find peace of mind, like any lake or a place of natural scenery.

if not satisfied do the following.....the worst approach though but quiet suitable for me
break things around u..just throw things with full pressure as ur arms allow to exert. the crashing sounds will relief u.


ANGER IS A WEAKNESS, SO TRY CONTROL IT.
the best way is to absorb it, let ur brain get the worst of ur anger, be silent and silent. it would take u a few minutes but u'll find the anger dwindling. keep practicing this and a time comes when u'll be able to have a control over it.

hope it would help u

Almaas Ruby

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~A Philosophy Freak~

@ Almaas Ruby
u r right......the crashing sound really gives immense relief when we break the things with full force and exertion............but wats the scientific logic behind the calmness we get after this act ? i ponder always but dn know why is it so that suddenly anger level just gets to zero which was used to b at peak of scale.

well.
therez a logic behind it.
will paste u the whole detail but let me refresh my own mind first which is getting eroded these days with the rusty dusty time..
anyways....
a tip from my side is to never let your anger reside in you, give it an exit in anyway..............

i think i must start research work on Angryology
m sure will be having a great response from u people

anyways
tc and regards!!

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~A Philosophy Freak~

Breaking thing isn't going to be an option, this way you are going to make your own loss. I would like to second "Almaas Ruby" in this regard that you should some how show an exit to your anger.

But what is the most peaceful and calm exit, that you can show to your anger?

If someone threaten you what should be your course of Action?

well thats the option for me atleast
breaking things.......... really its a very classic way do try once

well there shud be an exit otherwise it will poison your mind.......

and mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.................. if someone threatens me...well depends i think........what sort of threats r u talking of?????
i can only answer if i come to know the real situation.

but anyways........none can harm u in anyway coz death (the extreme possible threat) is what given to u by Allah and on the day fixed so nothing to worry about.
i may sound weird but wel...............threat koi deta hai to dei.......Allah is the Supreme, He Will Save you from all evils....

just have faith in Him and ask for His Blessings.


regards!!
Almaas Ruby

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~A Philosophy Freak~