Choosing a Spouse

[Invincible]

For all believers it is important to hear what the Word of God says on any matter. Of no less importance is the subject of marriage. This is something which has perhaps the most tremendous effect on a person’s life.

Now my question are that
To Whom is marriage necessary ? (Why marriage is necessary?)
Should you look for arrange or love marriage? (Why or why not?Please do not get hesitated in disclosing the facts. It may help in getting the orientation of our most of the youth in a right direction.

Do post ur valuble thoughts on this topic.

[whiterose]

marriage is basis for society one shouldn't just married due to social pressure. when one become responsible, comfortable in taking reponsibilty he should married.
in our society arrange marriage are in strong hold. it gud but if some one choose his or her spouse and nothing wrong socially or ecnomicaly then decision should be accepted by families should not made any ego prob i don't like it.

[North Star]

Salaam,
Well, Islam attributes great respect for parents, but for parents and specially in case of females, suggests that "do not marry them without their consent". For the males, it is said that (abstract) "marry when u feel like, marry one, two, three or four (if u can do justice amongst them), or if u dont have enough resources, then fast, or u can take a slave (but here again it is a restriction that the person should take the responsibility of her livelihood e.g. shelter, food and clothing etc and that the woman is not in contact with any other and also that the child is the male's responsibility and should be given every legitimate authority and inheritance with due status.)

So, in the light of the above, it is clearly evident that a person should not marry when he does not have enough resources. For the parents, it is commanded that the will of their children (esp girls) is a must before getting them married.
Now the question that which sort of marriage is better...love or arranged. I personally think that it varies from person to person. To the persons who lay great importance to the choice of their parents and know that they are not considering any of the material or social benefits behind the scenes, and that the person has not committed to someone else, should go for that. Otherwise, love marriage is also not condemned in Islam, provided that the limits for persons interaction are maintained with due respect and in accordance with Islamic moral and ethical values.

[I M Possible]

To Whom is marriage necessary ? (Why marriage is necessary?)

Well marriage is significant because it is not only a responsibily but it also stabalizes ones life. It helps out to be practical and be very accountable. It is a part of life and Islam also have adviced us to get married when we reach the age.

Should you look for arrange or love marriage? (Why or why not?

Well one should go for arrage marriages but it is important to get engaged at least 6 months before ur marriage or develop some aquaintance with ur expected spouse, it would develop understandingand will be helpful to decide ur fate.

Well no comments on love marriages.

Regards,

[whiterose]

well i just want to add one thing married more then one women is not bad and alos allowed in islam but it was due to some specific situation it was not for all persons now-a-days no one can satisfied only one wife how one could dream for other and ethically it also feels not gud any how its a long discussion but in short more then one marriege allowed. and where as slave girl concept it not allowed currently its against law without nikkah no one can live with any one and i know it was allowed in Prophet(pbuh) life but it was due to some reasons valid reason currently if any one do this it will be ethically, regiously wrong. we should clear this concept to masses
don't think women as sex object think as a complete human being with full respect. its better for us.

[Invincible]

Healthy discuusion is going on
But where are brave girls of this forum-- Y dont they give their opinion? waiting for their thoughts.

[mudassir_701]

marriage is nothing but tension..........

[I M Possible]

marriage is nothing but tension..........

Hey don't make an insult of a beautiful nexus. It is all about caring for somebody and loving somebody more than u do for urself. But variatoins are there, so can't make a consensus that why u said so ...

Regards,

[prieti]

Originally Posted by I M Possible

Well marriage is significant because it is not only a responsibily but it also stabalizes ones life. It helps out to be practical and be very accountable. It is a part of life and Islam also have adviced us to get married when we reach the age.





Well one should go for arrage marriages but it is important to get engaged at least 6 months before ur marriage or develop some aquaintance with ur expected spouse, it would develop understandingand will be helpful to decide ur fate.

Well no comments on love marriages.

Regards,

i totally agree with im p.one should get married when the proper time comes.it is also sunnat to perform nikah.
i am totally in favour of arrange marriage.it is more durable and more supportive from both families instead of luv marriages.i think the parents of the boy never accept the girl from heart even if somehow they agree for the marriage. in the long run it proves very tough and difficult for the girl to adjust in those circumstances. so its better that children should obey their parents and get married where their parents want i-e one should definately go for arrange marriage.

[whiterose]

marriage is not tension if it is then it mean we all are here due to tension??