Dear impossible
Agreed.

Its goo discussion,

there are some moral/obligations (malpractices) of love affair. I am never against love, but you (all are well educated and grownup) tell me what is happening in our society (drastical change of "flirts"), is it love??? Please narrate keeping in view of islamic perspective as you described.

There are two dimensions

Love ke bad shadi

or

Shadi ke bad love.

But, I second I AM POSSIBLE that go for arrange marriage, Engagement before Marriage, try to build understanding with expected spouse, not with everyone.

Dear, love is something very pure, but we get it to the current stage, where people love few and flirt more.


Best

AA

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AA

"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness".
"Achieve excellence to become a dear or dire of the world"
"Failure is the world, don't known to me"

No doubt, a realistic and loyal person can switch to either 1st or 2nd option. It is up to him/her that how he/she is doing justice either to his love affair and marriage later on or to his marriage and love later on.

Regards,

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No, I think that u have spelled the word right, it is "Flirt"

Now we must look into the matter that what provokes a man to be a "Flirt", realistically.

By doing flirt sort of things, people usually play with the feelings of the other person. They enjoy the pain that other feels when they keep on playing with his/her emotions ridiculuously.

It sounds really cheap and shameful but it is all due to the cheaspeter flirty people whose figure is incrementing with every new day. We can't help this matter out because it is all about trustiung somebody. That is why some one has said: Believe others but don't trust them.

Why to feel bad of these flirty people if we can't do something to them? Well a person who is playing with the emotions of someone will have a free hand to do so becaue other person would obviouslyu forgive him/her on the name of love. But God will never forgive him/her. His/her bad doings will come before him one day or the other. Then he/she would have to pay for his evil doings.

Regards,

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yap I M P,

so if am not wrong the conclusion is

LOVE in its true spirit, before or after does not matter and it will make the world heaven, but excluding the word true spirit will made this word hell.

AA

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"It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness".
"Achieve excellence to become a dear or dire of the world"
"Failure is the world, don't known to me"

@amjad

I agree with u. You have got the picture behind my words.

Regards,

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What if he doesn't forgive the other person ?

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Tis' better to leave the matter in the court of Allah. Forgiving someone or not is another question. What can the other person do? Can he get back his/her normal life and honour back after being flirted by someone? Can he/she be able to make his mind for marrying somebody else after loving that flirty person to bits.

Well i think some people take these love affairs to heart this is why flirty people take full advantage of emotoinal ones. One needs to be preety strong and should face the world.

Regards,

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Is there any other place they can take it on....if tis love and a person is a true lover and not a flirt ?

So should he start believing that there is nothing known as love, its only the needs (biological + economic and social) which are needed to be satisfied, and are the things which are important to keep up with the relation and wait for the lucky draw to meet his spouse ?

I will also like to attract the attention of amjad777 to elaborate these intricacies found in arranged marriges, and less pronounced in love ones.