I read a line today stating "My son is my son until he gets a wife, but my daughter is my daughter till I am alive". I agree with this statement not because I am a girl, but this is a common observation that daughters care more for their parents as compared to sons even after marriage.

Forum members are requested to comment honestly that who care more for the parents i.e sons OR daughters even after their marriage????

Interestingly enough, when I used to work in Europe, my boss had two daughters and he was very happy for having two daughters instead of sons. I asked him why, and he replied what you wrote, "boys are mannerless while girls are caring and living therefore I am glad to have two daughters in my family."

Ofcourse, it struck me since it was against our norms and cultures where still unfortunately boys are preferred over girls. (But hush! its the taboo in our society that we may not speak of.)

To sum up, I do agree that girls care more for the parents. Actually, the fact is, female gender is generally tender, caring and soft-hearted whether its mother, sister, daughter or wife whereas males are built to deal with issues that demand that sturdiness in character and built.

Though, I agree with your statement but it should not be implied from my post that I would prefer one over the other.

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well,no doubt girls have love ,care and the likes in their instinct.but what i feel is that sons don't lag far behind daughters either,except that they are less expressive(in my case).I'm not sure,but the ratio goes like 40-60 in favour of girls.the reason being girls extended interaction with parents while guys like being outside.

@ Khoso.
Agree to some extant..
But if we take stock about the overall situation of our old citizens, it may be observed that they are handled with great care by there sons also after marriages. Although there are some cases of exploitation but limited in numbers.
Another factor is also there that daughters holds natural attachment perticularly with there fathers.

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yes dear.its v true...daughters remain the daughters through out their lives ,while sons get change in themselves after their marriages.by the way,candidly speaking i think boys take better care of their parents ,and they can if they wish to...

Generally, boys do take care of their parents in their old age and when they require help as for girls, they go with the wind (i.e after getting married, they go elsewhere) and hence takes no responsibility of taking care of parents. They might visit sometimes but it's the boys who take care of them.


Girls leave their parents after getting married which is a very common and normal practice, it is the sons who take care of their parents and stays with them. I know some sons prefer to live separately and do live separately but the % is less compared to the former one

However If you still argue that girls take much better care of their parents and blah blah and if you still agree that "a son is a son only before marriage" then after marriage if he changes, it means the wife has an important role in it and the wife again is a GIRL and not a boy. So, you now see that it's the girl causing the trouble, not the boy

Interesting Question : Why do girls forget that if they are wives today, they will become mother's tomorrow?

as far as i can think over the matter,would again say that boys can and do take better care of their parents if they wish to.......and as the issue of bringing the change in guys is concerned,would opine myself in the way that they can overcome the situation,if they can impose many other things y cant this ??????

Girls leave home after marriage not their parents. If parents are ill, usually their daughters are called to look after them, their sons pay least attention to them.

Again, you are looking at one side of the coin; When Parents are ill, son's wives are the one who take care and are with husbands parents and the daughters might pay a visit every now and then but they don't stay 24/7 for long periods because if they do so who will take care of their children and husbands etc etc?

ok what i think that goes like this and this is what i observed and think personally...you have all the rights to disagree...

what i think is that, yes, daughters are caring and all, but when they got married parents should focused on what they have in their house, i meant to say the daughter in laws...these days parents are not ready to give the place of their daughters to the wives of their sons...things started getting bad from this place...when you dont allow your daughter in law to take place of your daughters than how would you expect care from them...

some may wonder that from where i brought daughter in law...because in our society the role of daughter in law...considered as the role of son...

ok there is another aspect that in some cases if sons are not taking care of their parents, behind this another women lies...which is their daughter in laws...the reason may be several..one may be linked with my first point that those women were unable to get the place of the daughters and remain with the tag daughter in law....
there is no doubt in some cases that sons too are not caring but this goes in both cases wheather son or daughter...

the main issue what i think behind this is lack of tolerance from son and daughter in laws side...

As daughter in laws, we should consider our parents-in-laws as our own parents..whatever they say we should considered it as our own parents said that...in case of in laws...we made that our ego problem...and from here the real problem started...

As sons, we must consider this that our parents are old..we have to tolerate their behavior what so ever be the reason..whether we are right...or in other case we must have to accept our guilt....definitely we cannot change their behavior but yes we can change ourselves...than everything will become absolutely fine...Insha Allah....

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