madam mari post ko subah sham 2, 2 dafa parhya ga inshallah 1 week may baat samaj ajayegi k manay kaha kiya tha exactly,believe it or not mujay isi tarah k reply ki umeed thee (mardana anna, aurat yeh mard wo, ap ki maa behen etc etc etc), let me tell you once again, manay kaha koi bhi is tarah k harkat ko condemn nai karaha... 'is tarah ki harkat' ka matlab manay assume kiya tha 'zina', may yeh word use nai karna chahta tha, or wasay bhi assumption per hee debate horai thee takay agar Allah maaf karay kuch galat ho to islam k mutabiq kya karna chaiye, Allah khair kaaray koi specific incident discuss nai karaha tha may, to kya zina ko condemn nai karna chaiye jo app ko itni confusion or gussa agaya? ab baat samaj ayee app ko? is may itna mard aurat karnay ki zaroorat nai thee or may pehlay bhi keh chuka hoo kuen k may mard hoi is liye aurat k liye hee baat karoonga na? warna yeh topic aurat mard dono k hisaab say hai, baat karna fuzool hai app say, may seriously confuse hoo tabhi to thread banaya yahan, lakin app childish, you should also do something and learn to understand question before answering

Hadith of Holy Prophet(P.B.U.H)

"Whoever amongst you happens to commit any of these dirty sins he/she should conceal himself/herself as ALLAH has concealed his sins"[Al-Haakim and Al-Bayhaqi-As-Suyooti graded it saheeh and Al-Iraaqi graded it hasan]


In such cases a person should repent on his/her sins sincerely and then there is no harm in marrying such a person(If one knows about his/her partner or future partnerz sin).Without a sincere repentance of such a person it is advisable not to marry such a person.

Orders of Prophet are clear-cut in this regard.However it is someones personal discretion whether to tell his/her partner about his/her past.

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Puppet,Slave,Lover

Grow up big time.seriously.how confused u sound.ak taraf ap confused hain.or aik taraf ap mujhe smjha rhe hain.k mujhe kya baat krni chahiye.seriously u r funny..its ok I can understand take ur time.or haan.zina k word ju Allah use kr skta hai to stop prentending k how paawitr u r.main yeh jaan chuki hoon k apki kya mentality hai so wont waste my time here.

Zina gunah e kabeera hai. Aik aur baat yaad rakahin. Apnay gunahon ka zikar logon ke samnay kerna bhi gunah hai. Zina kisi se ho bhi gya to yeh Allah aur us banday ke beech ka mamla hai. Wo repent kerta hai aur tauba kerta hai to Allah maaf kernay wala hai. Is ka zikar apnay husband ya wife ke samnay kerna kisi pe bhi lazim nahi.

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The Me you have always known, the Me that's a stranger still.

Isn't it better to investigate everything before u get committed?......... why to ruin a married life. everybody must take care while going in a relationship. After marriage none of the two should investigate about the past of each other and everybody must avoid anything wrong in order to avoid any consequences in the future.

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Mujhe Manzil Ki Talab Hai Na Hi Nakami Ka Dar
Muhjhe Safar Me Acha KHasa Lutf Aata Hai......(hamid)

My goodness!

First thing, if one asks the girl about her past. If she is innocent and tells truth, the respect of boy will be decreased from the sight of girl.
2nd thing, if one asks the girl about her past. If she is not innocent and speaks the truth or tells the lie. The respect of girl will be decreased from the sight of boy. In both cases there is destruction.


Had Prophet Mohammad asked her wives about their pasts? No-way, he didn't, even logic says NO.

So, if He didn't. It is better one should not ask.

It certainly varies from situation to situation. I personally like above statement of sabahatbhutta.

Apart from this, I would also like to share my true story here which is without assumptions. My family wanted me to marry with a girl who was living in a village. Her family was also interested in this relation. But i wanted to know about girl's opinion. With the permission of both of the families I met with girl and asked her about her opinion. She was extremely happy and said that it was her dream . I then asked if she had any other relationship in past. She said no she had even not talked with any boy in her whole life. I was very happy after knowing her opinion. Date of engagement etc was not decided by my parents when I came to know about her affair via an other person. I was shocked because I was told that nothing had happened. When I investigated the issue I came to know that she had two or more affairs and one of them was reached at peak point.

Then I asked her about those affairs, she initially refused and then accepted that such thing had happened. I decided not to marry with that girl.

Agar woh mujhay sirf itna bata deti k us ki dosti thi aik do larkon say (Chahay woh dosti main buhat aagy hi kiyoun na nikal chuki hoti) mery liye us ky yeh alfaz buhat hotay. QK aisa woh tab batati jub woh sachy dilsay toba kar chuki hoti. Phir agar mujhay koi aor shakhs yeh bhi kehta k us ky buhat kharab relations thay to main is baat pay dhayan na deta.

Mager us ka yeh jhoot k usny kisi larky say baat tak nahi ki is relation ko khatam karnay k liye kafi tha.

Isliye mujhay opar diye gaye comments buhat pasand aye. Jhoot kabhi chupta nahi. insaan ko bata dena chahye jo bhi hay sach sach.

Iss waqay k baad mera Eeman mazeed pukhta huwa iss ayat pay k "Jesa insaan khud hoga wesi hi biwi us komilay gi". Allah khud insaan ko bacha leta hay qk us nay wadah jo kia hay iss ayat main.

In my opinion a person must ask her wife about her past in following words:

Mujhay koi akhtiyar nahi k main tum say poochon tumhary past k baray main. Aor tum bhi iss maamly main azad ho k tum sach batayo ya nahi. Magar, mustaqbil main kisi bhi problem say bachny k liye agar tum chaho to mujh say discuss kar sakti ho. Phir larky ko pehly apny past k baray main batana chahye.

Aisa karny say donon main confidence barhy ga aor wesa nahi hoga jesa meri story main huwa. Shukar hay k yeh Shadi say pehla huwa werna mery liye mushkil ho jata maaf karna. Aor kisi ki batayi hoi chhoti si baat mujhay buhat bari lagti.

Everyone has his own level of mind. Everyone is right according to his/her level of mind. Everyone has his own ideas, love and nature.

"Two people saw out of a Window. One saw the mud and 2nd saw the stars."

does wife has the right to ask about her husband's past? if yes than the question itself gives the answer.
treat Equal. thanks