Brother, its just a drama to entertain people. why you taken the influence of kashaf s behavier seriousely. infact you have made your thinking same as Zaroon. i did not miss a single episode of it but i dnt see her behavier s relflection in my notions towards life ans success. infact the basic lesson of this program is one should never be disobeyed to Allah in any situation as she used to do by her sayings.. and daughter is not less than son as some conservative tribe of people still exist, the story is revolved about it. yes she had shown egoistic character this may can be misleading factor. in my opinion its good serial comprising reality in it

Very bad attitude of Sarang Ali Sheik and quite patient and humble reply by Bilal Hassan.

Mr. Bilal's expectations don't signify the expectations of an individual rather reflect the expectations of the sub-continental society. His expectations are further supported by religious doctrines. I'm a girl and I have no hesitation in saying that these expectations, in fact, are the recipe of a stable marital relationship. Being independent doesn't imply being irrational, obstinate and arrogant by any means. Flexibility is the key to a healthy relationship.

Drama belongs to literary tradition.... All literary critics r agreed on the principle that literature dosent touch the social problems(marriage) directly,it's the domain of journalism! literature's main role is to construct an aesthetic relationship with reality. so the question" whether zaindagi gulzar is doing well for our society or not doesnt fulfil the criteria of literary criticism!

True indeed! but this flexibility should be from both ends for a successful and happy life. Compromise by single entity won't result in complete happy life!

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Quite conservative thinking! Everyone has the right to live his/her life in his/her own way (until and unless it ain't bothering others). I don't categorize people on male-female level. Rather I talk on humanity level. Both male and female feel things in a similar manner whether sorrow, comfort, happy or pain. so why to put more obedience and tolerance responsibility on any one!

Compromise, respect and trust are the magical keys that must be put in from BOTH entities (element of Love comes afterwards, one may disagree ).

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If the thread maker meaning is to point out the stubborn attitued of leading character, and such behaviour will cause an impact on other girls, then you may know background of her character, the hardships she face in her life, as for education, at her native town then out of city, and for css. Her husband in her college life try to defame her by fake affair, although she did'nt pay attention and she by chance know their plain, then how can she trust on him? This is Tough choice to build a relation with those who try to play with somone's feelings ever in past, so therefore she is reluctant to accept her husband is now changed who will never hurt her self respect.

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Wel its famous play by HUM TV but actual novel is quite different while this play is depicting somewhat other...Girls are not that fool to follow only kasahf stuborn attitude instead they can extract that how education can make a woman strong or how can she overcome crisis or hurdles in life...

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This drama is not misleading anyone.

Zaroon: He was a flirt but with time he groomed. To some extent, he is a male chauvinist. He make mistakes but doesn't apologize. "Usama proposal episode" is the example. In his views regarding so called "Feminist Theory of Freedom" he is very much justified.

Kashaf: Her life so far is a struggle throughout. She, her sisters and her mother were disowned by the entire family. Her father and taya were narrow minded and heartless. Third man she encountered was Zaroon and their very first meeting stuffed her brain with more negative thoughts about men. She is not stubborn or disobedient. She is insecure and has fears. She has developed feelings for her husband bus she is scared to reveal. She is considerate. "CSS" thing hasn't changed her a bit. She was like this before joining the office. The writer's main point was to show how her complaining habit breaks and how bitterness turns to thankfulness. The main theme is not "CSS ker ke larkiyon ka dimagh kharab ho jata hai". Not at all. Dekha jaye to daulat ka zyada role hai. Kashaf ke sath jo hua, us ke halaat ki wajah se hua lekin Asmara ka dimagh zyada kharab tha.

Those who are targeting Kashaf for being "disobedient" and for spoiling a martial life are requested to quote one incident where she was disobedient. Yes she is annoyed but being annoyed doesn't make her disobedient. Zaroon's mother and Sara are perfect examples of disobedient wives; liberals, always screaming about their so called rights and giving a damn about their husband.

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MR Bilal you have discussed such a sensitive issue and the reaction is apparent...i hope you will avoid such type of (conservative) discussions in the future as you are living in a country where people have been become aware of:importance of women rights and their emancipation...

My dear friends i just meant to say that the wife and husband relationship must be on mutual respect and love, the wife is not at all a slave of the husband but nature has made the female to be relied on the male for subsistence, she must be given freedom to do everything through which she can unleash her potential and achieve her aspirations in the parameters set by our religion...

The wife needs love, care and affection from her husband and he must be given that, she leaves her dear and near ones for him, so she must be taken extreme care of BUT at the same time it is girl's responsibility to guard the honor of her husband.....

So reaching the conclusion, i hope we all must agree that wife must be given extreme adoration and affection and she must be given enough freedom so that she can also live her life her way but within the religious bounds at least if not social.....and on the other hand wife must take care of the happiness of her husband and must not do that will hurt his feelings.....every true relation is based on mutual love and affection, any relation deprived of these factors would be mere compromise and compromises do not bring happiness...

Regards,

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