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[QUOTE=sabahatbhutta;596637][SIZE="3"]Don't make this thread a way of admiring a post again and again without giving your own arguments.
Perhaps Bilal bhae is going through Dasiymania. By stirring up controversies bhae is serving this nation |
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NOT really Lock's way i guess, i think i must follow J.S Mill in this thing, "Greatest happiness to greatest numbers", and i want my wife to give me the same respect and love as is given to "The Leviathan" of Hobbes, because i as a husband do deserve such respect....and i in return will save her fom every calamity just like The Leviathan, after all Marriage is also a social contract.....and i am appreciating her because she deserves it.....kudos to Daisy, i haven't got a better accolade to give her..... oh come on Faid bhai, Mania is used for a thing or person you are obsessed with, so wrong usage, i ain't obsessed........bhai i had given you a nice advice that if you don't think this thread is of any use to you, just stay away just like a nonchalant sage, we are not here hearken your wise counsel sir....
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Sadia G
I know your cruel circumstance made you cruel.... but cruelty can never be cured by cruelty. (I know your answer that "Loha Lohey ko kaat-ta hai" thus cruelty be cured by cruelty hahahahaha) What I like in you is that you are "OPEN". You speak (write) up what is in your mind, which let others understand you better and adjust. I think Kashaf lacks this quality and she should follow you. please give "LOVE and AFFECTION" a chance for your only enemy is cruelty(whether others' or you own). I will always pray for your success. |
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A healthy discussion starts with a single point of view by one person and flourish with participation of other people with multiple views. It loses its Real essence at the very point when we start criticizing or opposing other Participants INSTEAD OF thier arguments. I request you all Please don't criticize or target at someone with whom you don't agree, But discuss matters with Logic and Reasoning.
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As stated by Our Beloved Prophet (May Peace Be Upon Him)“The woman is like a rib, if you try to straighten it, you will break it.” The rib is bent in its make and not straight, and it serves best its purpose in the state in which it is created, and so of the woman it is said that being like a rib she serves her purpose best in the state in which she has been created; to straighten her, i.e., to make her work just as the man pleases, or to try to make her possess the sterner male qualities of man, is to break her down. Such men should not expect a happy and contented life with a broken partner….. Quote:
To the extent of my understanding of your question I would say that Thrashing and maltreating a woman in NO WAY is allowed in Islam. Exercising control using these severe and harsh ways itself is a Starting point of Opposition by the Other Party which flourish hatred and unpleasant feelings only and where there lies no more space of Friendly and peaceful Environment to live! It would be a Forceful Ruling Only instead of one that is desirable and acceptable. Love, Kindness, Patience, Discussion, and Compromise by both parties is the best way to solve all the issues. Men in no way are allowed to use any kind of violence or right to abuse or torture them physically and emotionally…Women must be treated with dignity otherwise men who resort to violence against them are simply below the level of humanity. Quote:
If she is not willing to spend her life with that man she is given all the authority to go for Separation. But this Solution should be the Extreme Option only! First of all both parties should negotiate matters with Discussions by involving third parties in between and give some time to each other. No sensible person would like to break his home unless there are extreme causes. But women are Naturally more Patient as compared to Men. They have God Gifted Tolerance Power! The temperament of man differs from that of woman in one respect. Man is Naturally stern and harsh, therefore largely unyielding; it was necessary that he should be so, so that he might be able to face the hard struggles of life. The woman who is meant to bring up the children has been so created that the quality of love preponderates in her and she is devoid of the sternness of man; she is therefore inclined to one side sooner than the man. These things are in Nature and we cannot change nature. Quote:
Similarly, In a marital Relation a wife who obeys her kind, loving and caring husband (even against her own will sometimes) enjoys love, care and respect in return. If she doesn’t do so and claims that she is independent and not his slave then what happens? A day, a week, a month, year and years…… Passes and at the end of the day she regrets! She want that Love, Care and Protection Again! Independence in no way is substitute of Protection and Care! She then wish for that life again where her husband order her and she remember the sweet essence of those feelings which one enjoys after Obedience Only. Obedience is not Slavery, it’s a Hidden empire. Had Obedience been such a “bad act”, as assumed by many, then why Our Perfect religion has instructed us to Obey Our Lord, Our Parents, Teachers, and Elders. Billions of examples around need an observer eye only! Since men are guardians and maintainers of their wives, they must have some authority to make decisions, for a husband cannot be an effective guardian or maintainer of his wife without having some decision-making authority. And whenever there is legitimate decision-making authority on one side, there is a legitimate necessity for obedience from the other. I wonder that women who work obey their manager’s commands for the sake of money, yet feel irritated when Allah commands them to obey their husbands as a religious obligation. Quote:
Give and Take is beauty and Secret of a Balanced Life. Why to feel need to curtail this?? E.g. in the Sacred Relation of Friendship, You give Love and Care to your friend with pure heart, Trust him. Naturally your friend will give you respect from core of heart and feel good to spend his time and share his feelings with you without any fears. What’s bad in that? Do Good Have Good and enjoy the Essence of Positive Actions with positive Reactions!
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Unless women are taught how to earn, they would never get a respectable life in this male dominated era. Quote:
If we agree for a moment; Why do women of west seem different? Nature must have not categorized characteristics between east & west. Quote:
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The very purpose of life is to worship Allah (SWT). The purpose of Marriage is Reproduction & Companionship. (Nothing more). Quote:
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I have not seen the drama but after reading plenty of posts what i draw from the content that variations in ones character should not exist and girls have no right to be stubborn. But to be honest enough, men have not really understood the glorious height of a woman. Gauging women love is not easy and it is also unfair to write that marrying a villager women is not good. All the great leaders had villager parents. Hence, it does not make any sense that a woman should be bureaucrat or etc.
Men and women are equal on all footings. No one can justify that Kashaf is bad and saima is perfect. To me, all women and men have equal status. Yes, qualities and traits may be different but on the basis of a fantasy or novel based drama one can't deduce that society is marching towards moral and ethical decadence. To sum up the issue. I would like to post the following words of David: “Women were created from the rib of man to be beside him, not from his head to top him, nor from his feet to be trampled by him, but from under his arm to be protected by him, near to his heart to be loved by him.” ― David O. Mckay
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Assalam-0-alaikum,
dear learned members you are going on & on, but to proceed further listen that there is no Khuda except Allah Almighty alone... and what they kind of people introduced the kind of Khuda i.e. Majazi.... there is one Allah who is our Khuda in all our states, senses and figure of speech and in our mood whatever it is even majazi ..... as far as the mutual relation of husband & wife is concerned, Alhamdulillah, we are muslims & we must know that there are beautiful adequate rules, guidelines sent down by Allah Almighty in Quran-e-pak and to his Holy Prophet Hazrat Muhammmad sal Allahu alyhi waalyhi wasallam (Ahadees), for both of two, to lead successful, happy and exemplary matrimonial life..... I think there is left no discussion but to discuss the discussion........... |
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